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writes:I recently went out with friends a few weeks ago and met a guy. We exchanged numbers. Got to know a bit about each other and made plans to get together. So we finally get together and end up sleeping together. I don't make it a habit of sleeping with guys on the first date. But it happened. And no I dont regret it. But Ive heard that first date sex is a deal breaker for the guy to ever take you seriously. But in this case I don't really see that happening. Its weeks after the fact and nothing has changed for the worst. Hes still a sweetie. But I must admit, I really like him. And I'd hate to invest my time and feelings into nothing. I've done that enough in the past. So my question is how would I go about seeing what he thinks of me so far and where this is going? Or if he even sees us going anywhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): Sadly I made the same mistake with someone and I fell hard for him. We continued to talk and hang out and sleep together for a few months, but he ended up getting together with someone else. I wouldn't say he necessarily felt that I devalued myself, but he probably connected me with just sex and nothing more.
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reader, me81 +, writes (19 May 2011):
 Well if he's still talking to you often and making sure you know he's interested, it shouldn't be that hard to find out where this is going. You should ask him, if he's a good guys for you, he would understand you want to know where you guys stand and he would respect that. In the past, I've wait for the guy to feel comfortable, but I understand now that sometimes they feel to comfortable with the idea of seeing you without commitment lol, so... yes, it's better to let him know how you feel and what you are looking for, if he's the right guy he will understand :)
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