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writes:I recently found out that my boyfriend of 5 years looked up a review site for massage parlors/escorts. I was looking at his web history because I was curious how often he looked at porn, which I'm fine with. According to the web history, about 3 times he just went to the site and did nothing else. He didn't register and I believe you have to to look at any content. He also went to one "spa" site. All the visits were short and he didn't browse through them. At the time, we had our biggest fight and he felt that I didn't trust him (because I got jealous about another girl) and he was re-evaluating our future/relationship.A few weeks later, he actually registered for the site and looked at a "spa" in his area and a few classifieds/reviews. He hasn't been on it since and things between us have been very good as well. I found no other evidence (phone calls, emails, etc).I completely trusted him until this and he is normally very affectionate. I don't know whether I should give him the benefit of the doubt that it was just curiosity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): When i read your case, i though i was reading mine as well, few days ago i could get the historial of the websites my BF visited, while he was in his miami hotel, found he was checking sum massage parlors in miami, nd escorts also and lots of porn. We had a good long distance relationship i am latina and i try to please him always even when we are far away from each other, thats why i got hurt nd i decided end the relationship (3 years) , the worst part is that he denied totally, only accepted the porn stuff (im ok with that) but try to get a prostitute or get a happy ending in this kind of places..., no way! I feel nasty to be with a guy like that! I have needs also, for me i would like to have as much sex i want everyday but with this long distance relation ship i cant, anyway i feel horrible now missed him a lot but i dont think i could get back with him after knowing he get off his sexual tension with a prostitute. I feel dissapointed cuz i gave him very good sex when we were together... But now ahhh anyway just wanted to share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011):
I am a guy who has been to such sites, but never went further. Why? Boredom. Curiosity. Yes, some level of sexual dissatisfaction. I wouldn't necessarily be alarmed that he went there, but treat this as a sign that something may be wrong. I don't go to those sites when I am blissfully happy with my lady. I imagine a lot of men start out like me and eventually when on business trip or something they decide to pick up the phone. Don't let it get to that point.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (20 May 2011):
 My guess is that he is probably contemplating checking it out. He's probably on the fence about using the services of one of these facilities. The average guy doesn't get online and look for exotic massage parlors just for giggles.
How's your sex life? If its minimal or you guys never make love, then I suspect he's serious about it using their services.
Either way, I'd bring this up with him and express your concerns. The last thing you want is for him to bring something home to you and you want to nip this in the bud before he goes to the next step (if he hasn't already)
Also remind him, that a lot of the exotic massage parlors are run by people who keep the "masseuses" captive and use them as unwilling sex slaves (by threatening their families in their home lands). Morally, he shouldn't want to be a part of that.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): "spa" site? Please explain? Is it a massage spa, like he's planning on getting you pampered, or...?
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