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writes:I have never really had any positive sexual experiences. I was abused as a child and my marriage was abusive sexually. So I have never liked sex. Last year I met my new partner. He is very loving and gentle with me, which is a whole new experience. Since we met I have become increasingly more interested in sex, and now I think about it all of the time. I can't get enough of him, but I'm worried that it's getting out of hand. I'm worried that I'm becoming overly sexual and that it is taking over. Is this normal? I'm 34 so am a late comer to the joys of sex! Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 January 2016):
 Late 20's to late 30's is where women CAN get an increased libido, it's not uncommon - one of the reason are that they RELAX more about the act, the don't accept (as often) crappy sex as part of a relationship.
Basically by your 30's you KNOW what you like, you KNOW your body and MANY women are more aware of HOW to communicate sexual "demands" to a partner.
I think if you have gone through long periods of sexual abuse - both as a child AND as a woman there is reason you have found sex repulsive - now that you are WITH a man who not only love you, but respect you.... you have found that sex is not repulsive with this man and you have ALLOWED yourself to enjoy it. Which is amazing given your background. It's a HUGE thing to overcome abuse in ANY version, so YES relax and ENJOY this man and the sex you have with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2016): Absolutely nothing wrong with this. If you have had many bad experiences with sex in the past then just embrace it when it's good.Women have a high libido when they get to our age. It's different for men, they experience that when they are really young. But people also experience times when they can't get enough of sex and other times barely think about it. It's only human nature.If your new boyfriend is happy to have sex with you just as much as you there's nothing wrong with it.You say you were abused as a child and it takes a long time getting over that but don't start feeling ashamed of yourself now because people are finally being nice to you. You sound like you are in a good place in your life and you are free to do the things that make you happy.
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