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writes:Im from the UK and have a girlfriend from australia. we have been dating for nearly 4 years, we met in the UK then went to Australia for 2 years. now im back home and she is in OZ but coming to Uk soon. I am thinking about the long term(kids, etc) and dont think i want to keep the relationship going as if anything happens down the line when kids are involved i would hate for her to want to go back home and take our kids(when/if we had them). Im in my late 20's and finding it hard to make this decision i still love her but dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm already feeling better for the advice and have started making plans for when she arrives, thanks
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 I applaud your attempt to think long term and cause/effect.
But honestly, unless you have some substantial reasons on hand before you get this ball rolling, is it really cause for immediate concern? Have you already resigned yourself to ultimate defeat before the fact? While I admit that your concerns are rational, would they be not better used in the right place at the right time? Perhaps just file it away under crossing that bridge IF you ever come to it. You risk throwing it all away on something that *might* happen. I say give it your best right now. Deal with the issue if and when it ever manifests.
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reader, Cat girl +, writes (2 June 2010):
Hi,
Is there any reason you think things are going to go worng even before she gets here? If you are having doubts already maybe you don't feel as strongly as you need to. This is a decision you need to make soon, this could be very hard for her if she comes all the way over here and your heart isn't totally into.
You have to make the right decision for yourself, but if you can't be 100% for this girl then you should let her know before she moves to the otherside of the world to be with you.
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