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writes:Me and my girlfriend have only been together a month and yesterday we were talking about out futures, she told me what she wanted out of life and i told her what i wanted, but then we ended up talking about kids..... which i thought was too soon. But im comfortable talking about almost anything with her so I just let it go... She told me what she thought then about 5 or 6 seconds later she said "we've only been together a month".I agreed we should'nt talk about it and she seemed alright for the rest of the day.But im worried she'll be scared now I asked and she said she wasnt but how can i tell Im worried I'l loose her and i really do love her shes soooo perfect and is the kind of girl i want to be with.Im just worried. Reply to this Question
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (23 December 2007):
 if she said she wasnt' scared then i think she wasn't.if she didn;t intend to be with you she would set the boundaries straight away and told you to forget about it cos it's too soon for talks like that. to her it must feel like a vote of confidence from you that you don;t want to treat her superficially. if you mention it again and again from now on there is a danger she might feel suffocated and scared, but i don't think you should worry about it now. xx
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reader, nikkij +, writes (23 December 2007):
 Surprisingly enough I am in somewhat the same situation accept I am on the opposite end. I have been with my beau a month and he has started talking about the future...I wasn't scared off by it, but I did have to talk to him later about it and that he seemed to be a bit too serious too fast. He was cool with the talk and I felt a lot better afterwards...now things are good because we are both on the same page and understand each other.
I suppose just talk to her...explain that the things you said are what you want for your future in general...not necessarily with her...Just make sure yall both understand what you want out of the relationship..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): "only a month"
once the honeymoon period is over and you guys ahve lived in the same house for 5 years then think about kids.
you ain't gonna be screwing up one life. it'll be yours hers and the kids.
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