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writes:I'm dating a military guy, He's in the Navy and this is the first time I've ever been involved in a military relationship. Next month will be our one year! We're living together, but of course he's not home right now, he's out to sea. Back in 2006 he was involved with a girl. "The perfect girl" you could call her. Tall, skinny, breast inplants. the works. They were on and off for four years, ended it in 06. Obviously that was years ago, it happens. When we first meet, end of 08, he didn't stop talking about her. He never moved on from her it seemed and that pushed me back from starting something with him. Months later, I landed him and it's been happily ever sense. Anyway, I'm lying in bed last night and I find his journal from his first deployment, 06. Curious of his adventures, I read some of it, and oh my god! Talk about the girl that got away. She's all over it. Him crying himself to sleep over her, missing her, saying how beautiful and perfect she is in every way and how lucky he is to have someone like her. it made me sick to my stomache. Oh, and he called her froma foreign port, after he's told me several times he'd never call me bacsue it's too expensive. He tells me he loves me more than he's ever loved her, but how can I believe it after reading that? He's emotionally shut off from me, never tells me how beautiful I am or anything. I'm worried that she is his ideal woman that got away. I want my thoughts to leave me, I wish I never read that because I'm heart broken now. What if he's just settling with me? Now I feel that I'll never be enough for him. Help. How can I compare with the girl that got away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): I recently started a relationship with my ex whom i ended it with around 2 years ago.his most current girlfriend dumped him and he is with me now.At first i thought he dumped her but it was the other way around.Before the dumping i asked him to do it so we could get together since it was obvious we both had feelings and he told me he was interested only if i was serious.It would have meant moreto me if he did it to be with me and not she dumping him.anyway am the girl in his life now but his ex is calling and he's calling and they were not even close at all.He's callig to say when he reaches home and the same for her.He makes sures she goes home and stays on the phone and waits while she drives home stuff like that.One time she got angry he did not pick up his phone.what am i to think?my heart and mind is saying they are together.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 February 2010):
You are paying the price for letting your curiosity get the better of you. This is how great relationships can fall apart. First of all, breast implants aren't that nice, so he won't be missing them. Secondly, he allowed himself time to get over her before going out with you. You're not a rebound at all. He chose you after getting over her. He's not settling. He loves you. This is your imagination getting the better of itself because you've gone into someone's personal thoughts. Lots of others have done this and found themselves hurting. He loves you.
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