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writes:my girlfriend sends and recieves strange txts from a guy at work;sent:he migth get suspisious secret meeting in the street an all x,(thro wet sponge at manager for charity)(pj day at work for charity)sent:you could get ya legs waxed in ya pjs im so excited x x,sent:if im getting wet so are you x,she keeps her phone close to he all the time and she keeps putting it on silentand deletes txt regulary, is this nothing or is there something going on, ive felt sick since ive read these
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): I am going thru something very similar with my spouse. Confront her before it gets too out of hand. Tell her how it made you feel to read it and you would like to know what is going on. The problem with text messages everything is in code and you never know what is truely going on and if you try to read between the lines sometimes you can figure it out and sometimes you could be totaly wrong. The only way to know the truth is to ask. I am sure you know her well enough to ask and know if she is being up front and honest with you. I'm not saying she wont be.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (17 October 2011):
The words may mean nothing. Keeping her phone close,deleting and constantly on silent does suggest but does`nt confirm anything. Still,you need to keep your eyes on things without her knowing. How would she react if you was secretly texting a woman? There is something inappropriate going on. Do not be put down by anyone telling you about not giving her privacy. Those who say that are not in your situation and it needs checking out.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (17 October 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry that you are feeling this way, but I am afraid to tell you that I've been there, and unfortunetly this sick feeling is most likely right. One thing I've learned is to trust your gut feeling.
I was in a 10 years relationship, just ended a month ago. A year ago, I also found things that make me feel suspicious about his behavior. There were many, one includes text msgs, and protecting phone, keeping on mute, deleting all history, calls, texts.. Reading your short post, unfortunately your girlfriend is not being honest with you.
First of all, you need to keep yourself calm.... If you want the truth, want answers, you need to be calm, and patient. What's important here is to get to the bottom of this mysterious text messages. Do not accuse your girlfriend of anything, because you don't have concrete proof. You need to find out what this man is? What are his intensions? How close are they? What's your girlfriends feelings towards this man? Etc...
Do not panic yet, because this could mean nothing, innocent friendly, just joking around... So, please don't make any accusation, dont assume anything, don't take any actions yet. For now, what's best is to keep an eye on your girlfriend behavior. If you come across a chance that you accidentally saw any text message, just casually ask her, without making it sound like an interrogation, or any anger... Be casual... Let's see her response, pay attention to her behavior.. Surprise? Embarrassed? Nervous? Uncomfortable? Good lying face?
All you can do for now is to be patient, and see if this continues? Hopefully it was just a joke, because people that work together can become casual friends, without having any other feelings, and co-workers do joke a lot with each other. I see it everyday...
Hope this helps... Hope you find your answers...
Best wishes/ good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2011): It sounds like her behaviour is doing the talking more than the words. I think you have stumbled on something that she doesnt want you to. Be careful as this can be very tormenting. I wouldnt let her know yet.
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