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writes:Okay first off I'm fifteen years old and my boyfriend is seventeen. We've only been going out for two months, but we've known eachother for a good chunk of eachother's lives. (his dad dated my mom for awhile, but they broke up. I then dated his best friend for a couple years and plus we've been friends since forever.) These couple of months have been the best of my life. I love him and he loves me. Our recent makeout sessions have been getting very heated lately. We haven't even gotten naked yet, though. We make out on his bed and there's a lot of thrusting and groaning(porno much? jk). He's only gotten to second base, but I WANT him. I forgot to mention that I'm still a virgin and he isn't. He regrets losing his virginity, though. He goes through girlfriends pretty fast, some only lasting a week, and he had always confided in me(before we started going out) that he wanted love and a lasting relationship. I'm one of the longest he's had. He told me himself that he's never felt this way about any other girl in his life. What is your opinion on me having sex with him? I know about sex enough. I know that it will most likely hurt, that I will probably bleed, that there is a very big chance that I will get pregnant and/or an STD/STI, that the first time won't be absolutely amazing, etc. Will my relationship last afterward? I've heard that most people never stay with the one that they lose their virginity with and I REALLY love him. I don't want to get hurt. I also have this other problem. My friends. They are all strong Christians and refuse to have sex before marrige. I'm scared what they will think, if they will judge me. And if I DON'T tell them that I had sex(if/when), then they will think I'm a bad friend for not telling them that. Help me?
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reader, oldschoolmusicboy +, writes (25 November 2008):
 i think its best if you dont even bother with it just wait to have sex cause it could hurt and you could get pregnant just wait it out at least until your 17
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): follow your conscious do u want to have sex or not. in fact u r too young, i am 18 and still a virgin, wen u are patient GOD will bless you always.never let a guy pressure u if he does he ain't good enough 4 u and he dont love u.stay strong. ^hugs^
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reader, Everoth +, writes (16 October 2008):
 stay with him at least 6 months to a year and if hes still around then you can start to consider it and its not true about never staying with the one you lose your virginity to, some stay together for a very long time, i know someone who has been with their first for three years now. all in all it depends on the person
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): i no exactly how you feel. when i was 14 i dated a guy who was two years older than me, so he was 16. and he also already lost his virginity, and told me the same things like he regretted losing his virginity already. i was still a virgin at the time.. and i really wished i had someone to give me advice.. because i ended up having sex with him and we only lasted 2 months after.. then he left me... he was telling people around my school that he just wanted me to have sex and not because he wanted to be with me... he told me he loved me, i thought i loved him too.. i did get very hurt in the end. so my advice to you is to wait, theres no rush into sex. or make him wait at least a year.. and if he sticks around that long, maybe he's worth it....
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