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writes:hey dudes/dudettes!man, i need some advice-non biast advice. im in my second year of uni, i work (pretty decent job part time) and along with my current job im doing some training to help me to progress further.the thing is, this yr in uni, i havnt attended any of my exams. i barley gone to lectures. mum n dad fink im doin really well and they reallly want to see my graduate (at one point i did too!)but, i dont know if its because im lazy or because im just not keen on uni anymore-but i dont want to further myself in uni. i feel like id rather work and maybe enroll on a course that i enjoy as a hobbie. a lot of people i kno have graduated-had the family celebration photos-worked hard- but never ended up getting a job in their chosen field.mum said if i dont graduate ill always be a failure in her eyes. I know she only said it because she wants me to do well, but i dont know? am i making the right move? Jessica x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): First, your at a natural point in your life. You choose to work, which was probably done to help pay for school and stuff. Ignore your mothers comments! They aren't true!
It is prefered that you finish school now, because latter, it will become more dificult, because of finacial obligations and possibly relationships and children.
I'd been in your shoes many times. I would almost sit and meditate and tell myself, I must get through this with good grades, just a few more months to finish. Some classes are boring. But all classes will provide you with tools in the future. It may not look like it now, but believe me, you will be in a situation, and you will use something you learned and apply it to the current situation. This has happened to me many times.
Your distraction is not because your lazy, it is just that you found something more pleasing to do with your time. This is normal. What I think you need to do, is discipline yourself to stick it out with your schooling, at least finish the semester. Then, you can rejudge the situation and maybe take less classes or no classes for one semester, but being you started, I think you need to finish it, so you won't have regrets latter. Work will always be alvailable, but education may elude you in the future. It has happened to me, and I regret it.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (18 May 2008):
 Here in the States, it's hard to get ahead of anything other than a minimum wage job without graduating from college of some kind. I would seriously recommend completing your degree requirements and call it done. And, just because you have a degree in one thing doesn't limit you from chasing a dream in another field.
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