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writes:Quick question. Is there a such thing as love at first sight? I never really believed in it but three weeks ago at a party i met this cute girl and we've been dating since. Im 15, she's 14 turning 15 and she lives quite a while away, but it feels like i've known her my whole life. We love every second we spend with each other and talk for hours on the phone everyday. And we trust each other completely. It's just wierd cause both me and her have had prior relationship trouble, and are usually very untrusting to other guys and girls. More curious if there really is love at first sight or not more than anything. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): i do believe in love at first sight i met this boy when i was little and i had a crush on him and my mum was telling me about it saying it was my first crush and it really got me thinking that love at first sight does exist because i LOVE that boy til this day
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reader, daletom +, writes (3 August 2008):
I don't think you truly love this girl - especially since all you can really tell us about her is that she's a "cute girl". BUT - I think it is VERY possible that you two may come to love each other. Like others have said, it takes time. Not just time together as a couple (though that is very important) but also time as a person - your accumulation of life experiences.
35 years ago today I met a beautiful, brainy girl. Within a day I was already starting to have thoughts of "life partner" with her. We have now been married for almost 34 years. Is that similar to the "first sight" love you're experiencing? No, I don't think so: the major differences are that we were both 22 when we met, out of college, had some (albeit very limited) experience in other boy/girl relationships - and had been writing serious letters (on real paper, etc) to each other for more than 3 months before we met.
Be patient. What you're looking for may indeed happen. It will take time.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (3 August 2008):
I personally dont believe in love at first sight. I think that you have to know someone to love them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): What a delightful question and I am happy that you have found someone, to care about, hun. However, I do agree with Jamer. In my honest opinion, I do not believe in "love at first sight". I think what you are feeling is "infatuation/as strong attraction at first sight" . While this all feels wonderful and good, please keep your wits and sensibilities about you because at your young ages, do understand that feelings do flux rapidly and change, as maturity and growth take place. You two may be together a lifetime-you may be together another month. This is very common with teen romance. And just to add, real love takes many, many months, sometimes years and huge, huge efforts to even get remotely near true love. It's an action based on commitment, not on the rush nor the ebb and flow of emotions. But that's not to say, you can't find 'love' with her. Over time and as you two develop a strong bond, you will know but you have to allow it to take root and grow. Continue to let her see a confident young man. Keep a positive happy attitude about this close dating friendship and you may find that love, eventually. But let it come at it's own pace. Smile and have fun-use this wonderful energy towards making your life happier! That is what she'll take note of about you. Good luck and Take care!
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 i used to believe in love at first sight, but know i know that yes there is such thing as strong infacuation at first sight, but not love.
Too many people throw the word love around like a normal word and its lost all meaning, true love takes years of care, trust and understanding to develope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): Yes, my little compadre, I beleive there is love and first sight......But I don't think there is everlasting,lifetime commitment, you and me and none else love at first sight. You have to be with someone, for a really long time, and I mean really long time befor you deside to wipe there rear for the rest of you life, if it comes to that (What if she has cancer for the next 20 years and needs you to wipe her rear and change her diaper.?) But if you stick with her for a while you will grow to lvoe her trough all that comes..... Please knwo that I am not against you, and do not doubt your love...but I DO DOUBT the longevety of it all.....Just give it time to last forever. And if you rely on the Lord Jesus Christ, It will last all your days... All my blessings... Love,
The GabberJackRanch!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Love, understood as genuine affection for the whole person you are involved with, develops over time. A strong attraction can be instantaneous. And a willingness to work something out with a person, no matter what, can develop after very little time, if you happen to be lucky and notice in that person a particular quality that makes you prize her above all else.
Good luck!
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