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writes:Hey, I'm going out with someone now, and I think i'ts great! He's kind, funny and quite sweet to me. But, I just can't help feeling parnoid that he'll end up hurting me like someone else did to me :( I just want to stop panicking about it, and I do NOT want to turn into one of those girls who get jealous over nothing. Hopefully I won't. It just that before I really liked someone, but all a long he was just tagging me down a line and as soon as he found someone else he was just like, 'Okay bye! I don't want to see you no more.' That really hurt me, as I really, REALLY liked him. Please, I really like my new guy, and just want to stop feeling paranoid that I'll get hurt again... Help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): Trust builds up over time. I meet my boyfriend after the worst relationship of my life and after jus have tried to kill myself.It has taken alot of time and effort from both of us but we now trust each other fully.Take your time with this guy dont rush into anythin and the trust wil come. Remeber not all guys are the same so try not to compare him to your ex, there are some decent ones out there.And if your still having problems why dont you try sitting down with him and explaining how your feeling.Good luck xxx
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reader, rk06  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 I'll start off by applauding you for realizing what would end up being unfair to your new guy.
Out of experience, its very hard to trust the opposite sex after they trample all over you... stupid exes lol.... anyway, you don't have to trust him fully right away. The trust that one can feel for another human being takes a while. But, at the same time, give him the benefit of the doubt.
When I finally decided to stop fooling around, and actually get into a relationship... the trust part was hard for me. I have been shat on in the past, and I wasnt about to let that happen again. But, over time, she showed me what kind of a person she was... and everything turned out great :)
Go with the flow, give the guy a chance :) its tough, I know. Just one of those things that takes time.
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