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writes:About 4 years ago I had a boyfriend, long story short we were perfect for each other. Matters beyond eithers control we couldn't be together for a minute but before we could get back toegther I had to move and we lost contact. Flash forward 4 years we find each other but I have been with someone for almost 3 years and have a medical condition that makes if it very hard to lose weight so I'm bigger then I was before. I still desperatly love this person and he says he feels the same wieght and all but wants me to be healthy. I don't want to hurt the person I'm with now he's a great guy and loves me exactly how I am and has been there through my medical issues, but he's not the one. I want my ex. I believe he is the one and he says the same but feel like a dissappointment to him because of the wieght. What to do?
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reader, Hk45cal +, writes (18 September 2007):
This is actually a really tough spot to be in. The thing is you are in a bad position to not knowing exactly how your ex feels. Will he accept you the way you are now, or is he in Love with the person he met before. This happened to me. Throughout my school years I was so in love with this girl and always wanted her. She was an athletic, beautiful, brown eyed girl. After school we got together, but during the course of our relationship I realized that I was in love with the old girl. This girl had grown up, no longer athletic, no longer all that attractive to me. I stuck with it but it ended in disaster!!!When you are in the position it is basically a roll of the dice. If you are willing to place everything on the line for this man, then go for it. If not? Well consider it this way. When the waters turn muddy they usually stay that way. In your case the ex is the water under the bridge.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 You should not feel like a disappointment to him because of your weight which like you say is due to a medical problem, if he says he loves you then he should love you warts and all and not make you feel this way as that is not true love.When it comes to the person you are with now, can i ask why you are still with him if you know deep down that he is not the one for you, that surely is not fair to either of you is it?Maybe you need some time to yourself, to work out what you really want, is there a way you can loose weight?, do you want to loose weight? do you want to be with someone that thinks your weight is an issue?Take care.xx.
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