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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has asked me to have anal sex with him, im willing to do it but i have never done it before. Can anyone please tell me does it hurt or any advice, tips, etc. Thanks xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): it didnt for me! it just feels like you are taking a shit... if you have alot of lube you will be fine... definally dosent feel good but it didnt hurt me .. and i only ever did it like three times.. the guys love it and it just feels like you are taking a crap! haha
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): i think its a matter of preference and readiness. yes, it hurts, its uncomfortable, and its definitely something that guys get off on and girls just put up with. my advice? like everyone else has said, go very slowly, use a LOT of lube, and if it gets too uncomfortable, then STOP! if he really cares about you he will understand. if not, he isnt worth being intimate with in the first place!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): Hon, why don't you wait until you're older to worry about sex? If he really loves you he will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I myself think that it all depends on how big his member is. It will stretch but you have to go very slowly. You have control so you stradle him and you decide how fast or how slowly it goes. Remember to get part in stop there so you have time to strech slowly then go a little farther and stop for a sec again then procede ever so slowly. I'm a man and have an 8 long and 8 in firth in me. I thought i would get ripped open but I did just what he taught me to do as I have you. It does hurt a little but not so much as not to do it. At least that's mthe way it was for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): The first time i tried anal sex, it hurt, ALOT!
I was quite drunk at the time (which supposedly numbs you a little) but no! I actually cried it hurt that much!
Sorry, not much help - Just giving you my experience of it.
Make sure you are very lubed up, and i've heard that spooning position is the least painful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): PeterPan what you doing all this site then if you aren't going to offer advice cause your afraid you get a low score?
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 My personal approach regarding any given question like this would be to NOT make judgement calls unless specifically asked to do so.
This question was regarding anal sex, does it hurt and if there were any tips that could be offered. I did my best to respond to the question as framed and NOT open a dissertation on if an individual should or should not partake in it or not, simply because it wasn't asked of me. I suppose that my personal rule is to give the best answer I can to any question I'm asked, but stay within the framework of the question as best possible. It's not my place (nor interest) to make judgement calls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): I found it amusing that the women who posted here, I know there were a couple where the gender was not shown...but you could tell they were female were really against this. Peter Pan said it might be ok...honestly it does take a woman to know. It really has nothing to offer to the female partner and can do untold damage. Listen to what we are telling you hun and good luck and stand your ground.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Does it hurt? Bloody hell yes. I tried it once and fainted with the pain - no kidding. I thought, "what the heck, I'll try it" and found it horrible. I wish I never did it. I've even heard it can tear muscles down there, as it goes against the natural way of things. And besides all that, one thing to bare in mind is that it's not even pleasurable for us girls. We have no g-spot or clitoris in that area, so we get nothing from it basically. I don't really get why people do it...
But I mean, you're too young anyway honey. This might be rich coming from me, I'm not much older, but frankly I'm trying to help you out, not preach. If you really really want to give it ago then sure, go ahead, but remember the dangers and go very very slowly, with lots of lubrication!
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reader, dizzie +, writes (31 May 2008):
hi there, you dont need to do this form of sex act to impress your partner especially if he loves you. you are so young and yes the second part of your question yes it hurts like hell. my man has only sliped and it has put me off the whole nights activities. it is a really dangerous thing that you are willing to do. please dont do this act get a fella who doesnt want sex until your 16 and that you can put your faith in or you will regret it for the rest of your life not just mentally but physically aswell believe me bab if you need to talk to someone im here for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): oh god
at your age EVERYTHING is still developing.
it can be dangerous and painful
god you are so so young.
if only i had been warned against growing up so soon when i was your age
take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): 1.- You are too young to be experiencing sex,(in any form, shape position or whatever)youth is king and it'll never comes back.2.- Yes, it hurts for grown women imagine how it will hurt you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): You are too young. It can be dangerous for women. Find yourself another boyfriend who does not have these expectations.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (31 May 2008):
First, yes -- it might hurt if you are not properly lubricated and relaxed. The muscles around your anus are designed to keep things in and not let them out readily. I did a fast Google search and found this link -- there's tons more stuff out there (try using my search phrase "anal sex howto" and view the results. Here's the first link I found that might be of use to you.
http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/buttsexbeginners
Good luck, go s-l-o-w-l-y and remember that if things get too intense, stop everything.
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