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writes:*OPs own title*First of all, my boyfriend tries to deny that he watches porn for the purpose of sexual excitement--as Myself, I have no problem with porn. I'll be the first to admit that I watched plenty of it when I was single, and I wouldn't mind even watching it with my bf. My BF and I are currently living together and sharing a computer because we're doing an internship in a foreign country. Thus, when he downloads things--including porn--I see it. We've been living together for about a month. He's downloaded maybe 10 clips that I can think of altogether. I realized just today that most of the women in these videos are black! Whether it's black-on-white or black-on-black...they're black!I'm WHITE!I can think of only one video that involved a white woman.How do I approach my bf about this?!I'm white.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Dont worry about it dear. I am black and enjoy watching porn with white guys with six packs but in reality I prefer black men. It sounds like you feel insecure but there is no need to be. You watch porn too; does your porn always have black guys? How do you think he would feel if he found the porn with white guys that you have seen in the past? If it were you caught out, what would you tell him? If I were you, I wouldn't even confront him; just let it go so that you can still spy on his browsing history in future without him deleting it because he is aware you check. At least its women; imagine if you saw men only stuff or adultfriendfinder platinum membership? Deal with it by yourself and keep an eye open for more serious stuff.
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reader, Tarawr  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 Don't stress about this. It's really no big deal. Perhaps I look up, for example, lesbian porn, but I have a boyfriend. It doesn't mean that I no longer want to be with my boyfriend. It just means that I wish to live out a fantasy without cheating.
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reader, needtoknow35 +, writes (18 February 2010):
 just think of it as a learning experience maybe he is trying to learn new things to keep the sex life new and exiting and he is only probably looking at ebony porn because thats what he feels comfortable looking ay. think about it girl he is black you dont see many porn flicks that is interracial so hell thats probably the only way he can see a black man do his thing and learn from it it im not saying he is gay cause i know he aint but he aint looking at the woman he is learning from the man
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (18 February 2010):
 What kind of porn intrests you.. Is it always black man having sex with white women, and do the men in porn look like your boyfriend, do they have the same sized dicks? Are the women prettier than you or uglier than you.
I bet you can't even remember.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (18 February 2010):
Sigh... No he dosen't want to replace you. He could go out with black women if he wanted to. He could go out with other white women, he could go out with chinese or indian women... but he dosen't. He likes you, he likes your smell, he likes your boobs, he likes your personality, he likes your life, HE LIKES YOU.
Porn, as you know is fantasy, we look at all types of things. Today he likes looking at black women, he isn't dating one, so it's a change, it's something different. Tomorrow he will start looking at "gang bangs", or orgies, lots of people having sex. He is a man that's in a loving relationship, he dosen't want to have sex with many people, it's just a change, something different, IT'S BLOODY FANTASY.
Fantasy is what it is, imaginging differences in a safe way. It has no reflection on his life, he dosen't want the FANTASY, he wants you. Remember, at any time he could have a black woman, he could go out and have 3 way sex with a couple of lesbians. But he dosen't, because he loves and wants you. Same as people watching james bond, or watching horror movies or watching prision movies.. no we don't want to be spies working for the government, no we don't want to be vampires, and we don't want to go to jail... it's all fantasy, enjoyable to watch, something different from our everyday world.
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