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*lex-kid123
writes:I'm very shy.i have dificulty talking to girlsi have dificulty meeting new peoplei have dificulty starting a conversationi'm afraid everybody will think i'm weired.to get a better idea of me, look at my other posts.thnx.
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reader, Alex-kid123 +, writes (27 April 2007):
Alex-kid123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question wow. thanks all of you for your help! And thank you mcbirdie! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): you shouldnt be shy and if u want to hang out with people and have a lot of friends then u should find someone that likes what u like dont be afraid to be fun im wierd and my friends r 2 and they like me how i am
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): mcbirdie has said it all, follow her advice and points, they are brilliant for someone who is shy and wants to become more confident.
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reader, Keria  +, writes (25 April 2007):
Wow, McBirdie, that's awesome advise! I'm going to try to remember those points myself!
Thanks!
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reader, mcbirdie +, writes (25 April 2007):
 There are two tricks for getting over shyness--first, know and fully believe the truth: that every single person in the world is afraid of looking foolish. Every fear you have of looking dumb in front of a girl, every single other person has felt the same way. Some people are just better at hiding that fact, or learning ways to get over it.
Second: fake it until you make it. Picture what you would look and sound like if you were a more confident, out-going person. Now go out and pretend to be that guy. Try it in small doses--say, try tomorrow to go to a new restaurant and ask the waitress to tell you about the specials. Something small, but work your way up. Eventually, you will have pretended that you are confident so many times that you'll forget how to not be confident.
I said two, but I'll throw a third in for free. :) How I helped myself get over my social awkwardness was to imagine the worst case scenario in vivid detail. So imagine I wanted to ask a guy out--I pictured asking him out and having him laugh at me. Having his friends laugh at me. And then I imagined what happened afterwards--that I would walk away. Still alive, still healthy, able to get on. You see? If you always know the worst case scenario, and you always imagine coming back from the worst possible as being stronger than you went in, then you'll be ready for anything.
I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, rk06 +, writes (25 April 2007):
 Hey buddy, don't worry. You're still young, and you're going through a common stage :) Its not bad to be shy... some girls really like it... but if you want that to change, just go for it. Try talkin to new people, once you do it a few times... you wont be so nervous :) hope this helps!
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