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writes:Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we are very close, we livie apart but seeing each other nearly everyday which we love. However i have recently been finding that i do get very controlling with him, which leads to arguments. I get frustrated if he is doing something which i think he should not be doing and if he spends time with other people when i think he should be with me. I know how i am behaving is very wrong and not fair at all on my boyfriend, however i cannot help the way it makes me feel. Have you please got any suggestions to help me stop being so controlling with my boyfriend because it is really affecting our relationship? Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): I can relate to what you are saying. I am dealing with this problem myself. The first thing that I have found helpful is when I am getting controlling is to put myself in his shoes. How would I feel if he did to me what I was doing to him? Do unto others as you would have done unto you. It works. If you continue being controlling he will leave you, just as my man will leave me. As they should. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to let them do as they chose, and be confident in who we are, A confident woman does not need to control those she loves.....and ps. men find confident women very appealing. All the best to you. Love yourself....and don't stress over things that are not to be stressed over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): Sweetheart, the one who needs help is him not you lol. In almost every relationship, the woman is the boss believe it or not. I dont care what any guy says to cover his manhood, the woman is the boss. However if you find yourself having fun doing this, its only gonna get worse. A man can only take so much. If you really feel bad, talk to him about it before you explode. He might just adore the fact that youre actually treating him like a human being that he might just give up his friends for you. The ball is in your court. Talk to him. Nicely. Tell him what bothers you instead of getting all Susie Green on him. Do you watch Curb Your Enthusiasm? If you dont, go to Youtube and search Susie Green. Youll see yourself in her and remember my advice to you.
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