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writes:I'm 16 and I'm going to graduate at the end of the year. Today, I felt this strange sensation in my stomach today, nothing I've ever felt before. There were actual butterflies in my stomach today when I saw my teacher, and I just said, "wow" to myself. It's such a weird feeling that I haven't felt before and it hit me out of no where. I'm pretty sure this may be a crush but I'm usually just shy when I like someone as a crush. But, we've shared a lifetime of staring into each others' eyes which doesn't help much, before. It's probably just my hormones speaking and making quick infatuated judgements. I do understand the boundaries there should be between a teacher and a student so I've been trying to avoid him. It seems like he's trying to do the same aswell because when I walked towards my friends today he immediately looked at me and walked away. But, during class when he would be teaching he would be staring right into my eyes. It feels so weird. This may just be platonic love so I need help in trying to figure out these weird things that are happening. Please help me!
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reader, apehkah  +, writes (30 May 2009):
I was in a sort of similar situation with one of my teachers before, I thought I was possibly in love with him. We were very close friends and it was obvious to everyone. I always looked to him as a father figure to start off with, he was the dad I wish I had and I was the daughter he never had. I spent a lot of time with him, possibly to the point of obsession and I missed him terribly after I haven't seen him for a certain period of time (school holidays and such) and it took me a little while to realize that while I loved him very much, I never thought of him as more than just a father. There was a situation that took place, that made me realize it and while we still talk every now and then, we aren't close at all anymore..he's just a guy that used to be my teacher, and I'm just someone who used to be his student. I hope you realize what exactly your feelings are for him, and that you can sort them out rather than cut him out of your life completely. The best of luck to you
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reader, MidnightSky  +, writes (9 May 2009):
 hey :)
aww, getting butterflies is great isn't it? i abosultley adore my teacher, i get butterflies everytime i see him and think about him and talk to him!
i'd say just carry on as you are, stay friends if thats what you are, don't suddenly jump to a relationship from some eye contact, but feeling like that is nice, right? don't act on it, just be friends. and i don't know, if you to do get closer, you are graduating soon which means you won't be in school and your 16 so yo could see where it takes you......
but for now just enjoy getting butterflies around him, :P x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): Hey hun you're not alone. I completely understand what you are going through. I'm also 16 and I've had a mad crush on a teacher since last year. He flirted with me alot all through out 9th grade but now he trys to avoid me. My stomach also starts tickling and I get butterflies when I see him. It sucks because for alot of girls who like their teachers they can only be with them in fantasies. I always wonder why guys are like that...one day they act like their intrested and the next day it's like you don't even exist. Keep your head up, what you are going through is normal. And cherish those moments when you say he's looking into your eyes, it's the small things that matter. Good luck hun and best wishes :)
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reader, ThisGirlsInLove +, writes (10 April 2009):
I don't really know but it definitely sounds like there's something there between you two. I'm 16 as well and I am in a similar situation apart from I know that I am in love with him. It confuses me because he acts like he kind of likes me too. I always get really nervous around him so im not sure if I give off the message that I don't like him but then I don't want to make it obvious. And I don't know if he knows or not anyway.
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reader, cloudysunshine +, writes (9 April 2009):
I think you should avoid getting involved with your teacher, I remember feeling upset once when my teacher got married, but he never showed interest in me like that, he just wanted me to do well in my studies. My advice would be to focus on your work and guys similar to your age. When you're not looking for someone, something better than this will come along!
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