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*ratgurl0007
writes:I have been married a year this month. I learned about 5 months ago that my husband is addicted to porn. He would rather get himself off then have me particpate and enjoy myself. Our doctor who I have taken the oppurtunity to discuss this with has told me that being his is of the age that he is (55) and has been single for the last 15 years it is almost a losing battle to break him of that. He doesn't like to discuss this but it needs to be addressed because I am ready to walk. I am ready to walk away from the man I love. what do I do. I want to help him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): All men like porn. Just about. It's a pressure release. Unless he is denying you love, and you feel frustrated sexually, let him alone. Otherwise, pull up a hair, and grab the lube. Share with him the excitment. It'll be double the fun! Even if you don;t like it all that much, be a part of it. Men are very visual when it comes to arousal. Experience his fun, and I guarantte that he wil lfeel "safe" with you, and enjoy a wider sexuality and excitment. If he spurns you, then I start rethinking it, but don't make him feel guilty about his release. Under the circumstances, be open minded. If you can;t beat him (pun intended), join him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): You need to discuss this with him and let him that know that it's serious, you sound like an easy going person that wouldn't mind him enjoying porn discreetly and as long as it doesn't effect your own sex life, so make sure you let him know that.
Porn is not substitute for the real thing, unless he has some kind of fetish that he's afraid to talk about. I think you should find out as much as you can about his porn habits, what genre he is into (most guys have a specific taste when it comes to porn) and see if this is the case, perhaps he's into things he knows you wouldn't do.
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reader, Macker  +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Hi I have a similiar problem if you would call it that. My other half was a virgin when we met and had never been with another woman so naturally he masturbated and watched porn. However when we got together he continued to do it and even more so alot more. I had to talk to him about it...you will have to tell your husband how you feel and that you either want to be a part of it or he is going to lose you. i know that sounds cruel but you mite have to give him an ultimatum. I have solved my isssue by getting involved with my partner when he watches porn or finds the need to masturbate. find out within yourself what you are willing to do before you give in because your husband needs to realise what he mite lose over this. hope this helps a little bit.
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