A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Please help - I don't know whether i have a right to feel upset and hurt.My partner and I work for the same company - logistics - he manages ( he is one of the managers, with one of his own teams) on the customer services side - I work for the client side, managing the accounts.He's slept with a number of people from work - I have in truth - this being before we got together - and upon getting together were open and honest about who they were.One girl however ( one night stand ), has come back our work - he knew I was a little uncomprtable with it, and when he was told she would be on his team, asked for her not to be...well she is, and I can tell from how she looks at him, she flirts with him, is overly laughing etcI've told him it makes me very nervous, upset, uncomfortable, even more so as he asked for her not to be put on his team - and yet she has been and he hasn't brought it up again. When i told him how i felt, he was angry, told me I must think very little of him. I don't know what to do. He was laughing and joking with her today.Am i being silly ? its really hurt me
View related questions:
flirt, his ex, one night stand Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (6 June 2019):
 You have a RIGHT to feel any way you wish, but that won't change anything.
This all boils down to whether you trust him or not. She can flirt with him all she likes but, if he is faithful to you, nothing is going to happen.
If you don't trust him, then it's time to call it a day. Your relationship will not survive without trust.
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 June 2019):
 Do you trust him to be faithful or not?
That is really what it comes down to.
HE can shut down the flirting if he so wishes. BUT there is NO way in Hades SHE can "make him" cheat if he doesn't WANT to be a cheater.
YOU are the one who made the CHOICE to date an Office Romeo.. and now well, this is what can happen.
The more BUTT-HURT you act, the more likely it is that SHE will rub your nose in it.
So I have to ask again, DO you trust him or not?
Does he have a history of cheating?
...............................
|
