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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex girlfriend cheated on me with another guy for a long time before I found out, and I was crushed and felt played with for months, i could never trust her again. ( this was a year ago)Now i am with a girl i absolutely love, she is amazing to say the least and she has given no signs that she is being suspicious or doing anything behind my back, but she has a male friend at college who she hangs out with on a normal basis (I've met him, he's cool), but I just can't kick the feeling that something is going on because of what happened in my past.What can i do or should i do to change how i feel and think, deep down i know she wouldn't cheat on me or even think about it but for some reason i always get nervous and overthink the smallest details. What should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I know what you're going through. I've been cheated on twice in the past, even now with my current supertrustworthy boyfriend of 3 years I still get nervous sometimes.
Key word in your fear is that its "unreasonable". Looking back, you may have seen some red flags in your ex that you over looked at the time. You probably don't see those now. You met your girl's male friend, he's cool, no worries. Your girlfriend is trustworthy, no worries.
Every time you start to worry, go back all the evidence that she ISN'T that type of woman! You'll start to feel a lot better
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