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*orphine-millie
writes:I seriously hate my life at the moment. I am currently taking a gap year from university due to the fact my parents refused to fund it as I apparently don't deserve it and I had very little savings at the time. I started working full time from August until the end of October when I was unfairly dismissed from my job (is being sorted out at the moment). Nearly all of my friends are at university having the time of their lives, while I have to stay at home on jobseekers allowance (which I can't stand but is the only option I have)or I spend all day looking for jobs. I am seriously trying my hardest to find a new job but it's really not as easy as it sounds, I'm jobhunting pretty much all day every day, the jobseekers allowance is the most demoralizing thing I've had to do, especially at the age of 18... To make matters worse, me and my parents have never got on, and I get spoken to like I'm utter scum on the end of their shoe and they don't really treat me as part of the family, they call me a layabout, parisite, scrounger etc, my mum cooks for/washes for everyone else in the family with the exception of me and anything that goes wrong within the household she blames me for... I admit, I was quite rebellious from the age of 14 up until the age of 16, but I've got myself out of it and earned my grades/place at university but as we are a high income family I'm not entitled to any grants/extra money etc so there's very little I can do.Currently all the money I have goes on transport and learning how to drive so I'm skint pretty much all the time and am relying on my boyfriend if I ever need anything else like winter clothes, food or toiletries he buys it for me which makes me feel bad enough but my parents physically refuse to help me out with anything or drive me anywhere so I really have no other choice. I rely on my boyfriend too much because I feel lonely otherwise because my friends who haven't gone to university are either at college or working but he's doing a degree in a local university so I spend most of the week around his house to get away from my parents as much as possible and I also miss him and don't want to be alone. I feel like my life's over until next september, I feel like crying most of the time and I feel afraid to get another job despite the fact I'm applying to different ones all the time, I abhor being on jobseekers allowance and having nothing else to do and being away from my friends while they're all off having an amazing time at university. Please help me, my boyfriend just says to cheer up but I just can't...Sorry for the long rambling essay...
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reader, morphine-millie +, writes (17 November 2010):
morphine-millie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all our thoughts :)I live in a place which is pretty much in the middle of nowhere and there isn't much public transport at all, everyone I know is way out of walking distance and there isn't really any jobs within walking distance of the small town I live in. That's why I see learning to drive as being really important and I've started to prioritize it above everything else as I used to go to a sixth form in another town and either got a college bus or lifts with friends, so getting around has never really been much of an issue until now and am nearly ready for my test so am just trying to get it out of the way..Lots of my friends are coming back various weeks and there are still a few who are still at home so it's not all bad I suppose..May try working for free like you suggested :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 The way the economy is at the moment there are so many young people that just cant afford to go to college and are living of job seekers because there is no work, believe me you are far from the only one that is in this situation to say the least. Hopefully the economy will pick up but you cant start mopping around in self pity or else you will just end up giving up on the meaning of life completely.
Talk to your parents sit them down and explain to them how low you are feeling, tell them you feel excluded from the family that you are trying your best to get your life on track, apologise to them for how you used to behave but tell them that you have matured now and you want to make things right again. Just tell them how you feel.
As for job hunting it looks like you are doing everything you can so thats good, just keep applying and dont let it get to you just keep going the way you are and dont give up something will come up for you.
your boyfriend sounds lovely and he is caring for you a lot which is great so appreciate that you have such a great boyfriend who will buy you these things and remember that there are plenty of people out there on there own with no family or nobody to help them with anything.
September wont be long coming around, can your friends not come and visit you? Just remember they will be of for the summer holidays before you know it so you will be able to start hanging out with them again.
Also pull your weight around the house it will bring your parents around, you are bored with nothing to do so start doing the house work, clean the place from top to bottom and show your parents that you can be independant maybe even give your mother a break and cook the family there dinner. Goodluck.
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