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writes:ok this may take a while but the way im feeling, i really need to express myself. The first thing you should know about me is that im unbelievably shy. I've liked this woman for about 6 months now and i have no idea how to take it further. this isnt just another "how do i ask my crush out" thing. In my life i have only had strong feelings for 2 women, the first was about 3 years ago and i didnt act upon those feelings because of my shyness and i guess fear of being rejected and its been hard to get over that. But this time is different, i find myself getting angry because im not trying, but the problem is i have a mental block which stops me from expressing my feelings and talking openly.Im not sure if im actually looking for answers here or if im just using this to vent my feelings, but if you have any advice im sure it would help greatly.
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reader, celestial  +, writes (26 August 2009):
Here my trick... Write down how you feel on a letter. A letter only for you no one else. It will make your head clear and ease up your heart. Now, it could take a week but that letter is going to resonate into your soul. Then you only need to give her this letter. It might be too much to confess to someone, but giving a letter doesn't seem as bad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): Hi!!
I know exactly how you feel.
I have been in this same situation.
Look at it logically, you like her (maybe love her), but there is no way you are going to EVER be together unless you bite the bullet and make a move. So at the minute you are in an unknown place in terms of weather a relationship is possible or not. This is not healthy at all and it will cause you a lot of pain.
There are three outcomes for 2 options:
1) Don't ask her out = a long period of time in limbo, not really knowing if she likes you or not, constantly fantasising about being with her, and eventually getting hurt when she inevitably finds someone else.
2) Ask her and she says no...= a lot of pain, and hurt, but... at least you know where u stand an you can begin to move on and accept shes not for you
3) Ask her and she says yes....enough said!!
So as it stands you are setting yourself up for a lot of pain, the only questions is weather or not you should risk taking that pain now and asking her out.
Whilst your in a state of not knowing, your feelings are gunna be messed up, so get on with it and ask her. I know you might get the answer you dred but knowing either way is far better than not knowing.
Its gunna be hard, and you will try and fail many times, but think about exactly what you want to say and how to say it and practice untill the day you finally ask her.
YOU GOTTA DO IT!!
Hope this helps,
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