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writes:My stomach is in knots and I've got a nervous energy that just won't go away and I keep on asking myself 'How can I like a guy so much that I've never met?'Ok, for those that aren't mind readers: I was 'communicating' with a guy on eharmony and then he gave me his skype name. I added him to my contacts a few days ago and we talked briefly but then I had to cut it short because I was at work and well needed to go back to work. We talked for about maybe 20 minutes but then entire time I couldn't stop smiling - he's got a great sense of humor :D I asked him about talking again later and he said 'sounds good'. The next day I sent a message that went unanswered saying when I would be able to chat again (I have an unsual work schedule) and then when the time came I sent a couple of messages, spaced out by a few hours, and let him know that I was interested in getting to know him more, etc. And now it's back to the start of my post and I am now trying to wait and give him a chance to say something on skype. I'm trying to stay 'cool' about this, but I'm just a nervous, crazy wreck right now but I really like this guy and am just not sure how to proceed...I've never done any kind of dating before, I've had what I thought might have been crushes before but nothing has ever felt like this before and well... I just don't want to mess it up...
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reader, liz85 +, writes (7 March 2011):
liz85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust a quick update:
We talked online for about an hour and 45 min later I can't stop smiling :D Seriously, my cheeks are starting to hurt from smiling but I don't care lol
Now I'm just looking forward to our next conversation and hopefully meeting eachother in person, sooner rather than later, no plans though... yet ;)
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reader, liz85 +, writes (5 March 2011):
liz85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suppose that I should clarify something; this wouldn't be long-distance, we live in the same town... I am interested in meeting him for coffee or something (even though I'm not a coffee drinker lol) to see if there is any kind of connection, but again I don't want to appear needy or whatever.Also, we haven't really talked (chatted I suppose) that much and with what has been said there hasn't been any room for either of us to be anything other than who we are (not too much more than just saying 'Hi').
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (5 March 2011):
 Hi!You are the cuttiest apple pie! Its ok and normal to be nervous, specially when you haven't date anybody serious before.. Well, its not date, but its a start of something that could be great.. Either way, don't be nervous, but if you are? So what?? Also, if he makes u nervous, anxious, knots in ur stomach, that means you like him, that's good!! Enjoy the feeling, just have a good time, smilling is a good sign.. Sounds like he's a good guy.. Just keep in touch and if you meet him, make sure somewhere public.. (We always have to be carefull right?) Don't pressure yourself, don't think too much, just be yourself... You don't need advice, sounds like ur hadling yourself very well..Let's us know how ur doing,Good luck!!! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Interesting post here. I'm a face to face guy with people and honestly, Ive fallen for two women online...over a course of time definitely, not right away. Both happened by accident. It's all about maturity and the person being consistent with who they are with their perception of who you think they are... that way when you see them, it'll be natural. The first time it wasn't for me because the woman was psycho and i was an idiot... well the second time, it was much more natural and much more at ease to see we both exist. We're hoping to see each other again soon. LDR's can be very difficult and come with many drawbacks and there are plenty of threads on here that discuss them. I'll advise you check them out as both logic and emotion need to be balanced for things to work and also an end in sight in terms of location for one of you. They require patience and a lot of thinking on both parts as they may require big decisions. Good luck on this.
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