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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I have had to set boundaries with my boyfriend as he has treated me badly and I feel bad enforcing them. I would be grateful for opinions on enforcing boundaries in situations like mine. We have a 3 year old and lived together until feb this year. When we lived together he wouldn't be responsible and contribute financially. Obviously I complained about this and told him to go a few times as I couldn't support him. I allowed him to come back and he did the same thing again, wouldn't get a job and didn't want to give me any money. Then he said he had to work away and in Feb this year left us. In his new job he earnt a lot of money £1000 per week, he still didn't want to give me anything and he didn't regularly want to come home only when he didn't want a weekend out with his mates. I think I have seen him 5 times since Feb. He has blown most of the money he has earnt in this time and given me nothing. Now he wants to come back home as his job has finished. Obviously i have been through a lot of emotional grief in the last few months after he left and I don't want him back. I have told him that if he wants to be with me he must provide the home for us. His response is that he is going off to Thailand and may not be coming back. He is trying to make me feel bad. I've told him if thats his choice its up to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): I think you did the right thing. You don't want him sponging off you and that is what he does, so good riddance!
Now you can either enjoy life without a man, or find another, hopefully better one.
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