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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i am a bit messed up. I am married over a year now, my husband walk out after 7 months of marriage, i was devastated, left my job and move home, he was confused and wanted to be single again, anyhow, he asked me back and i went back as i still loved him. Few months passed by, we decided to move abroad. prior to moving at a party I kissed this older man that i have feelings for then once i went abroad i felt i did not want to be with my husband any longer. I Only lasted 3 weeks in this new country and move back home (left my husband) to sort my head out(i got depressed and lost interest in everything, got counselling), i met this other man twice, the second time we got very close and got imtimate now i think i love him, he says he loves me and always have. (this guy is 27 years older than me) I am separting from my husband and i am totally confused, my wants to stay abroad and i cant as i am not happy, my husband and i get on really well and he really is a good man. Please let me know what you think of this situation, should i just walk away i am totally at my wits end on what to do!!
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 You really are confused aret you? Ok first I dont think you should should get into a relationship with this older man, not at least until you have sorted your head out. Stay separated from your husband for a while too. In short no relationships until you KNOW what you want.
It will take some time and a lot of thinking, try taking your mind off men for a while, perhaps gt a new and refreshing job, or a big hobby that takes up a lot of time. be single for a while. I think perhaps you and your husband just wernt ready for full on comitment, and maybe you wont be for a while. just take some time out and work it out. Thats all the advice Ican suggest, the rest is up to you, when you are ready an know what you want, then its time to act on it. Just let your husband know whats happening, he has a right to know.
Take care hun xxxx
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