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female
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51-59,
*lexjames
writes:Help please. I was with my partner for 20 years and we have a 9 year old boy. I wanted two children and when I found out I couldnt got low and ended up having an affair with my boss. This was really intense and I thought I had found my true love. He left his wife after 6 months of having our affair and I did the same. However, I found it really hard and my husband would not let go and I ended up going back after a couple of weeks. I could not let the other guy go and then found out I was pregnant (miracles do happen) with this child. He then put pressure on me to leave my husband again. I stayed with him for 8 months then moved out when the baby was born. The guilt I feel is unbearable. He is such a good man and always loved and cherised me and took care of me. Willing to forgive me and bring up the baby as his. The other guy I think I love although he has made me feel bad about myself in a few ways. I had a big argument with the boyfriend and went back to my husband but within days the boyfriend has talked me round to saying it will be different and he loves me and would never hurt me. I do love both for different reasons and hurting them both is killing me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Let me get this straight. Because you found out you supposedly couldn't get pg, you went and had an affair with your boss.
Now your husband is willing to both forgive you AND raise a child that isn't his, and by your own admission, the boss/lover doesn't treat you all that well sometimes, but your husband treats you like a queen.
You repay your husband for his love and loyalty by being torn????
Honestly, I think your husband is a total gem who should leave you and find happiness with a woman who will give HIM 100% of her love and faithfulness.
Boy, the psychologists are right. Women will treat good men like garbage while struggling like h##l to hang on to losers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Sadly i don't think we can tell you what to do and who to chose, only you know what will make you happy. However i would suggest that running back and forth between the guys is not helping anyone ... if you are undecided, then perhaps try being on your own for a while because it is unfair to giving both guys false hope.
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