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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone. My very soon to be ex husband left me and our two younger children at the time ages 2months and 2years. He left me for his ex girlfriend who was is very first. I was a stay at home mom that was a full time student. I was so hurt he would not come to see his kids he would not talk to me he change his cell phone number. It took me two years to get over what he had did to me and our children. I thought that know one would want me because I had two young kids. I was wrong I ran into my high school friend that I had a big crush on well we both had a crush on each other but never came out and said anything. I told him what had happen in my marriage I found out that he even knew the girl my husband left me for. I am in love with my old high school friend he as even asked me to marry him. Now my ex husband wants to be a husband to me and a father to our children. I really don't have any feelings for my ex husband. I care about him as the father to our children, but I'm in love with my boyfriend. My boyfriend does not know that I spend time with my ex husband to take the children places. I don't know how to cut off my relationship with my ex husband. We are not intimate I don't kiss him he has kiss me but I pulled back. Even when he kissed me I felt nothing at all. He thinks we are getting back together. I just get alone with him as a friend. I cannot tell my boyfriend this because he will go off. I just want a relationship with my boyfriend. My boyfriend does not treat my kids the way that their father does now. My boyfriend and my kids now 2 and 4 do get alone, but my boyfriend always wants to spend time with me and never all of us as a family. I like the family time that my ex husband gives I just wish my boyfriend would do the same thing. I can only choose one person but I also want my boyfriend to be a father to my children too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Perhaps you should spend time by yourself, and decide what is important to you. You don't love your husband, so don't remarry him. You love your boyfriend, but he dosn't seem to love your children like you want and need him too. You Need to decide what you really want. Best of luck sweet pea!
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (31 July 2008):
 I know your confuse..and with good reason. First..what women doesn't want to keep their family together. It is our dream to be happy and our husband love us unconditionally.
But the fact is..He left you. FOR ANOTHER WOMAN. you can never forgive him for that. It took you two years to get over it, and now he wants you back.
Of course he's going to act charming, sweet. He's trying to win you over.
The thing is..he did not come to see his kids when he had his girl. Now that he's single..he's making all the time in the world for you guys.
Trust me on this..once a cheater..always a cheater. If you take him back..He will no doubt do it again, because he can. So don't take him back. He can still be in your kids life. Just not in your life. There is a difference.
As for your boyfriend. I'd hate to tell you but as a Single Mom..You and your kids are a package deal. There is no way to love you and not the kids. Personally I wouldn't want to be with anyone that doesn't love my kids. Don't be afraid of your boyfriend. Set your boundries. If he loves you..he'll love your kids too. Best of luck
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