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writes:i have a crush on a guy with me in college and it been a year now and im pretty much sure that he feels the same about me too ...or at least wasit all started when i noticed that there s a guy (my crush) always looking at me when i pass and following me around and sitting behind me and something like that so i started to fall for himso he tried so much to talk to me and just few weeks ago he sat next to me in the class and i just acted like a fool i felt so nervous and i was blushing (by the way im too shy)so of course i didnt say a word neither him i guess he felt uncomfortable too at the moment and just to make it even worse i simply changed my seat after the lecture was overi really didnt mean to hurt him in anyway but i just was too nervous and confused is there anything that i can do to straighten this whole thing out i mean i really wanna talk to this guy and get to know himplease help me!
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (30 November 2010):
Everyone has a little bit of shyness in them. The whole problem is to learn how to control it. The first thing you have to figure out is whether you are shy around people you dont know or everyone in general. If it is the just the one guy then that might be easier to contend with.
Here are some tips,...they work for me so...
1. If you really like him but you are too shy to talk to him or hang out with him then you can start hanging out or talking to each other in groups. One day, just set up a hangout with a group of friends (yours and some others) and sit around and talk about stuff, movies, songs, basically anything. This will ease the tension between you two and would perhaps would get you to come out of your shell.
2. One on one. If you guys ever get into a position where you are alone (corridors, classes, gym..I dunno)...you can give little compliments...nice shirt...how's the weather...etc . It would not only gain his attention (the fact that you notice him) but it would encourage something.
3. Throw jokes. That is one of the few things that guys notice about girls. If he laughs then you have got him! I enjoy joking around and making people laugh because jokes help me to relax and you get this sense of being laid back..(no cares in the world sorta thing).
4. Make full use of your skills/talents. If you know you are aa artist, singer, dancer etc you would feel very relaxed to show him your talents..as you would be the one in the spotlight. For e.g I know that I am good at acting so I am not afraid to do a play infront of my so called crush because it is up my alley.
5. Talk in the mirror. You can talk in the mirror as if you are talking to him so that when you two bump into each other you would have already rehearsed what you would say to him. It helps because after all that practice, you would be sure not to make much mistake.
6. Change your look. Are you accustommed to wearing jeans and tops? From time to time, you could swtch to skirts, dresses and a little makeup doesnt do any harm.
ALL THE BEST!!
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