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writes:Let me begin by saying I possess poor social skills. We sit far away and I catch him staring at me a lot -- or maybe he's just blankly staring. His eyes are wide open and his mouth is in a straight line. His eyebrows are sometimes raised. He turns to face me and rests his head on his hand. I've noticed that his feet are pointed in my direction. Whenever I turn to stare back, he hastily looks away, leaving me doubtful. Sometimes, when I do get the chance to stare back, he looks me straight in the eye and sometimes, he offers a small, almost unnoticeable smile. We only stare for a few seconds before I look away, because I feel so overwhelmed by his gaze. When we do stare at each other, I feel something stir within my chest. I feel overwhelmed by his eyes. I feel a connection. But generally, I make it a rule not to stare at him during class in case it's noticed by my peers and in case he doesn't return my affections. We don't really talk (I'm too shy to approach him) but whenever we do (which hardly happens), he focuses on me and smiles. He leans in a little. One time, we were at this chill party and he sat directly opposite me and stared at me. Then this other guy started playing some tacky music and I pulled my face. So the guy I like came to sit closer to me and he asked me what kind of music I listen to and if I want, he'll buy something for me to listen to on his phone. When I was explaining to the others that I liked indie music, they asked me what it was, he replied for me. When we were all getting ready to leave, I noticed that he was staring. The following day, as I walked past him, he turned his head to follow me as I walked. He tried joking with me, but I gave a 'playful' sarcastic response, which, unfortunately, came across as rude and uninterested. In our eco class, he used to sit in front of me. When I was talking to the guy opposite me about books, the guy I like just butted in and told the other guy to 'stop pestering her!', even though we were having a normal conversation. This happened twice. Also, he turned to apologize for talking perversely in my presence and asked if it's okay. He didn't apologize to the girl next to me. Also in chem one day,, we stood opposite each other and looked at each other. He smiled sheepishly at me. I smiled a little. Over the holidays, he sent me a message saying 'hi' and another message two hours later, saying 'sorry my friend was playing around' (which is a lie, right?). I only read it a few hours later. And had no idea how to respond so I just said 'It's all good' and he said 'alright' and we left it at that. Last week, while working together at our school's community event, he laughed at my lame jokes and he used my name a lot. Even though there were three other girls doing the same job as me, he only came to me for assistance. He grinned at me every time we spoke. When the teacher was reading my poem aloud, he looked at me and smiled the entire time. His body was facing me. Today, he sat with his entire body facing me, sitting lazily and grinned. I smiled back. I heard that he likes someone in class but he's too afraid to pursue her because he thinks she might not like him back. I feel like one of the reasons he isn't responding to me is because his best friend (who I left firmly in the friendzone) has a crush on me. I hide my feelings for him because the last time a guy found out I was into him, he laughed at me for months on end. He poked fun at all my insecurities and jeered at me. He was a pretty close and respected friend before that incident. I actually felt like I was doing him an injustice by thinking he was cute. For that reason, I shy away from guys. I don't fear rejection. I fear the awkwardness that it brings with it. I'm too shy to talk to the guy I like. I can barely say 'hello' without fumbling. I'm too afraid to text him. We barely speak. Am I overanalyzing everything? If im not, how do I make a move, or get him to make a move?
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reader, dayvide  +, writes (18 February 2015):
 Well looking at your writeup I can say you are already thinking more about him than he might probably be thinking of you.. Am sure he's also at amiss with you as well and doesn't know how to reach you . He's probably a lil shy to approach you but believe me you don't need to make the first approach..if he wants you then let him come get you.. Feel free and loosen yourself a lil around him so he can see you are flexible for a chat but don't be the first to be explicit about your feelings for him
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