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writes:Okay...so I like this guy and I dont think he knows (im too shy to flirt!!) but something gives me the feeling that he does (- but i dont wanna be too out there incase im rejected- i'll feel like a fool...summer breaks coming...and so i wont see him for a while and i just want to know ....what do i doooooo?... thanks,
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 I agree - just say to yourself that you CAN do it...be confident in yourself and go for it. The worst that can happen is he doesn't reciprocate, at least you know where you stand then...
being shy sucks, I am too and was absolutely pathetic when I was your age...but one thing I have learnt over time is that if you want something (be it a guy or a job or whatever) you have to put yourself out of your comfort zone and go get it...you'd be surprised what positive results you might get too!
On a more serious / "bigger picture" note....shyness is something you can work on you know...there are lots of simple strategies for dealing with social anxiety, and I am guessing your shyness or anxiety impacts on more than just your flirting?? Am I right? Have you ever thought of getting some professional help to examine it and work on it? Don;t get me wrong...you're probably thinking - God, I'm just shy not crazy lady.... but social anxiety can be a very REAL problem for a lot of people, and can impact greatly on their lives...and it really doesn't have to! People just never seek treatment because they think it's "just part of their make up"...but often it is learnt, or a result of something, like self esteem problems. You'd be amazed at some of the people who have social anxiety...it is in all walks of life!
If this strikes a chord with you - why don;t you look into seeing a psychologist or someone similiar, who deals with anxiety...what have you got to loose but stress and anxiety??
Good luck with your boy!! Go for it!
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reader, xXx_Nikki_xXx  +, writes (18 July 2008):
I agree! Just go for it... As you wont see him for a while you have nothing to lose. We cant go through life being scared and thinking what if...If he doesnt feel the same then atleast you know... and you can move on
Good luck =) x
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reader, weary-zone  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 just tell him you like him don't be shy there is nothing to be shy about and if he rejected you flip your hair and move on i mean its better than standing like that with a wonder in your mind just make a move don't be shy !
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