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writes:I dont understand life anymore...i often feel so ugly because i dont have a boyfriend...all my friends do,and when they leave me (or shud i say ditch...) for their other half i feel like im a sad waste for a teenager..its like all the guys i DO like are way outa my legue..and no one has ever liked me...i do make an effort...but i just dont know whats wrong with me...help? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): There is no such thing as out of your league. Guys who are not interested in you are probably just not suited partners. Remember you are great, keep telling yourself that and do not measure yourself based on other people's standards!
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reader, Mark25  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling. I totally understand. I've been there. Nobody wanted me either. But I believe that people do want you. You're just not making yourself noticed. You need to have some confidence. This is easier said than done. It's incredibly difficult to find confidence when you have low self esteem. I think that you need to stop looking for a boyfriend. If you're constantly looking to meet someone and it doesn't happen you'll be really disappointed and think that there's something wrong with you. There isn't. Try looking for a way to meet new people. Groups, clubs. Anything really. This way you'll make friends with both sexes who will have brothers and friends who you might get introduced to. And if they have a boyfriend then he might have a single mate that you could be introduced to. Before you realise it you'll have a huge group of friends that never stops growing. Your true love might be there. I hope everything works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): Don't kid yourself - no-one is out of your league and there's nothing wrong with you. Don't under-estimate yourself. I did at one time but I eventually realised I had just as much to offer as anyone else - if not more.
Once you find 'The One' everything will gel into place.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 O'Connor is right....until you love yourself how is anyone else supposed to? I suggest you examine what it is that you "dislike" about yourself and what it is you think that others don't like about you...then, take steps to deal with that. That might mean looking at how "realistic" your view of yourself is....my guess is that you have a very negative view that others don;t share...but you don;t give them or yourself a chance. I am SURE nothing is "wrong" with you...being a teenager is just so difficult, it's totally normal to feel confused about life and to not feel like you "fit" anywhere. It will get better.
Try to focus a bit more on you...what are you good at? What makes you laugh? What do you do that helps you to relax or feel good? When you are truly happy being YOU...boyfriend or not, that's when things will happen for you! Mark my words!
Good luck sweetie.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 well if you are low in confidence - then this shines through and other ppl can see it. one of the things that guys find really attractive is confidence in girls. so no matter how low you are feeling, smack a smile on your face and walk into every room as if you own it. instead of thinking about it all the time you need to go out and enjoy being young and single - after all you still are so young and some would count you lucky to still be single!! just try and enjoy going out and meeting new ppl and having fun. there is a guy out there for you, but like they say a watched pot never boils. so forget about looking for mr right and enjoy life, after all it isnt all about having a boyfriend!
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