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writes:I am really sexually active, last night I slept with a friend of mine and tonight, where my friends and I are going, there's this guy who wants to sleep with me and of course, I'm sexually active and I said ok. What's wrong with me? So far in my life Ii slept with total of 5 guys in my whole life and I think that's way too many. Is there something I can do where my sex drive can calm down before anything bad can happen?
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 Is this a sex drive thing, or is it more a question of curiosity and "why not?"
If you feel this is not right you should probably try and control your actions. I don't think this kind of thing really hurts you (unless you get pregnant or catch something), but society is not always so forgiving. Try not to get a name for yourself, and just hope that you don't get a boyfriend down the track who really cares about your past.
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reader, anon642  +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Okay personally, i know girls who are your age and slept with triple what you have, HOWEVER..like yourself, i agree its quite a few.
Forget what everyone else thinks for a moment, if you believe that you have slept with too many people the only person who can change the way you now behave, to stop you sleeping with another 2 guys in the next week or so..is you.
But when you bring everyone else into it, people will start realising that your sleeping with different people and yes, unfortunately, your gonna get a name for yourself and im sure you don't want that.
Have you ever thought that you've become so 'active' because you see sex as a way of relieving stress etc from day to day pressures? Im not sure but its a possibility that you've become used to it and so continue like this.
If this is the case then you need to find something else instead of sex with people your not in a relationship with, to relieve your frustrations.
A sport maybe?
Really the only way to calm down is to basically take control and say no, it'll be hard..but it'll make you a much stronger person in the end. Also giving you good self-control.
All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Five really isn't that many, I know people younger than me who have slept with more than that! You might have a high sex drive, but just be careful (I'm sure I don't need to lecture you on pregnancy and STIs and condoms and the pill and their importance but it never hurts to remind!) Also don't get used to having your pick of guys because when you're in a relationship it doesn't work that way! This could be like a 'honeymoon period' just for yourself - you've been doing it for a few years and you're high on it, but it'll probably die down soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): There's not much you can do to curb your sex drive. What you can do is find a steady monogamous partner to satisfy your urges. There's nothing wrong with that. Also, practice safe sex. Bouncing from guy to guy increases your odds of being exposed to std's.
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