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writes:My bf of 4 years is always on his phone. He is completely addicted to this dragonball game he downloaded 2years ago. He has literally had his phone in his hand every waking moment since. I find this very unattractive. He's 30 years old and although I haven't said this word to him I think it's quite pathetic. I have mentioned it to him but he doesn't listen he just gets annoyed and says enough! There is no compromise. I say let's have a day without our phones which he scoffs at. I feel petty but I think we're at an age now where we should he focusing on more important things that need done. He is so lazy. But he's also extremely critical if I do anything he doesn't like. It's really putting me off him. I'm sick of looking at him with his face in the phone pretending to listen. Fake laughing as if he's following what's being said. He can't even keep track of a conversation he will listen to a quarter of it and then try to Join in but because he's not actually listened he just assumes what I'm talking about and constantly getting it wrong ! So then I give up on conversation. Notbsure what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 July 2018):
 Maybe you need to make the HARD choice and end it with him. I', sorry someone who is 30 and constantly on his phone to play games? That is not really someone who is invested in the relationship or YOU.
If you live together (and I'm guessing you do) you need to figure out what the next step is.
If you live at his, move out. (find a place firs, perhaps) and if he lives at yours, KICK him out. (might want to give him 2 weeks to find other accommodations or.. not - up to you).
It's been 2 years of this, he isn't GOING to stop. So you can either WASTE more time on a guy who really don't give a shit about anything but what HE wants and his game... or you can move on.
Do you two even HAVE a social life?
Do things together?
Is this how you see your future?
Seems like you are already over him and the relationship but you are sticking it out in HOPES that he will WANT to hang out with you, put in some effort... And I'm sorry to say this, I don't think he will... he hasn't in two years so why bother now?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (24 July 2018):
 You find his behaviour pathetic and unattractive, yet he is not prepared to change at all. What are you waiting for? What you are getting from this relationship? You would be less lonely on your own.
Why should he treat you any better when you ALLOW him to treat you this dismissively? Why do you not think you are worth better?
You've already wasted 2 years on him. Don't waste another second.
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