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writes:I'm a little over 3 months pregnant (13 weeks) and I still haven't told the father of my child as he's my oldest friends new boyfriend. They met after we had a one night stand at a joint friends house party. We both were drunk and I had no intention of starting a relationship with him. We used a condom but it broke. ( im guessing it did after he is the only person I have slept with since april). My friend know's we slept together and we seem to be ok but how can I tell her that I'm now carrying his child? They went offically 5 weeks ago. As i'm starting to show, only a tiny bit but its there, I cant keep putting off telling people. I could manage without him in regards to money and I own my own flat. But I dont want to lose my friend or my child to not have a father? What would be the best thing to do. I do not believe in abortion so that isnt going to happen.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (3 December 2012):
 You need to tell him, the longer you leave it the harder it will become. As the father he has a right to know, and your friend has a right to know as well. Before you start telling other people you need to tell him. It is good to hear that you are financially stable and able to look after your child alone, however as the father he has a responsibility to support you as well. I suspect that he will be shocked but that will pass and I hope he does the right thing and stands by his child. Do the right thing and tell him so he has time to accept the news before the baby is born. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2012): the longer you wait the harder it will be, he has a right to know and she definitely has a right to know as she is wasting her time on a man who is so involved with you. you really should have taken the morning after pill as condoms are not reliable when used when drunk, or you should have checked the condom straight away afterwards to see if it and its contents were intact. are you sure keeping it is the right option for you? Positive Options would help you find a non judgemental counsellor. good luck anyways, but you really need to tell them both asap.
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