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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. In the beginning of our relationship we were having good sex. As time went on the sex got increasingly worse because I was having trouble finishing up in bed. From time to time we have a good night in bed but then it goes back to being unsatisfying and awkward. Every time that I cant finish, I feel as if more and more prressure builds up which leads to more anxiety and doubt. Recently I have been thinking too much during sex such as things like, "I need to keep it erect," or "I have to come." I am really confused and I want to feel better. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2005): Bub: Sex is suppose to be adult play time. You are suppose to be having fun, not concentrating on your performance. The more you concentrate on yourself, the more stress you put on your system, and the more likely you are not going to be able to perform. If you are not laughing during sex, you are doing it wrong. If she is not laughing during sex, you are doing it wrong. The same criticism applies to her. Stop worrying about the clock, or when you have an orgasm. All young people are quite physically capable of having several orgasms a night, without much sweat. Work on pleasuring her, and not being concerned about your own pleasure. That is her job. I hope that you have an active and creative oral sex life, too. If you don't start doing your homework. Part of making sex fun is all the feeling and kissing, and tickling that can and should go on when two people who love each other get to play with each other. The laughter follows, and then the excitement follows.
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