A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a long time and he just told me something my friends have probably known all along about him. He told me something about his past that made him a loser for most of his life and that was absolutely disgusting. I understand he couldn't help it but I see him differently now. I love him but am kind of repulsed right now. How do I get over this? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Well if it's cured now then it's not a problem.
We all do that sometimes when we fart and there's follow through. Also pretty much every guy/girl has experienced after-dribble after they pee. Most of us have wet the bed when younger. I got so drunk one time I literally shat my pants.
It's just a bodily function and for whatever reason he wasn't able to control it.
That doesn't make him a loser.
Besides I don't know why you're disgusted. I mean you take dumps every day, you then grab some toilet tissue and smear it on your ass while wiping it off. The only thing between your fingers and the poop is a tiny bit of thin paper. I mean you can feel the consistency and there are some types of poop that take nearly an entire roll to wipe off.
My point is it's no more disgusting than that. It's just more messy. But as I said if the problem is solved then don't worry about it.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Hi, this is the original poster. The secret involves repeated involuntary defecation...
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): It depends, if it changes your perception of him then yes, you should think about breaking up. The perception of your partner is very important and being repulsed or disgusted cannot lead to a healthy relationship.
That said, DO take some time to let the shock of the secret fade. Having just heard about it, you are prone to feel all sorts of feelings but that does mean that they wont fade. IF he is a good guy, and this secret is something he couldn't help (as you put it) then please take some time before deciding anything.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): What's the secret?
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Yes, unless you tell us the "secret", help is useless.
But, from the perspective of someone who is old enough to be your father, I can tell you that nothing he told you will surprise me.
...............................
A
female
reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 January 2011):
 So what's this dirty secret?
...............................
|
