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writes:hey to all.. Im a bit down. Yesterday i asked a question on how to ak a girl out to be my girlfriend.. Well thanks for all the advice i got from my family.. Thats now you guys!!!! Uhm i did ask her out, although i didnt the answer thati wanted but this is what she told me.. Listen to it then you tell me what you think!! She said im the kinda guy thats to good to be true.. More like the guy of her dreams... but she feels like she doesnt deserve me.. because everything i do is right.. Im the perfect guy for her, but she thinks shedoesnt deserve me thats why we cant be together!! what is that now? how am i now sepose to feel? this is the second time that this to good to be true and i dont deserve you thing happens to me! should i be a bad ass boy to get a girl?? i dont understand life! I dony understand so people please help me to understant.. little help from the ladies themselves will be appreciated alot!!! :-( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Hi Hunny
Tellulah has it spot on sweetheart, Dont you give up hope and dont be changing as these girls dont no what they are throwing away love, As eyes said you havent met the right girl yet, It will come all in good time. Your a nice guy dont change for anyone sweetheart be yourself and be proud that your a kind and caring person that one day will make a young lady very happy..TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 You are the kind of guy that us girls dont apreciate until we have worked our way through some stinker's.
This girl has been honest with you, so take it as a compliment. Your girl will come along one day, it may even be this one. But for now just be her friend, and let time tell.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Well, I guess that was just about the nicest let-down she could have done if she didn't want to go out with you.
Don't give up completely with her, but don't push too hard either. Ask her again in a week or two - something like "Have you changed your mind yet? I'd still love to take you out." If some of what she said was genuine rather than being a nice, polite "definitely not!", then she won't mind at all being asked a second time. If it was a "definitely not" then she still won't mind, but in that case you are more likely get a shake of the head and an "I told you that I don't want to" or something like that.
Meanwhile, keep your eyes open. There are plenty of girls out there, and if this one isn't right for you then there's another that will be. No, you most definitely don't need to be "a bad ass boy" to get a girl. Just be yourself - because that way you're far more likely to find a relationship that lasts. And, above all, don't be worried about being rejected. The worst that is ever going to happen if you ask politely is that she might say no - in which case you move on to the next one!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I think you just haven't met the right girl yet, sweetheart. Don't change into one of those run-of-the-mill jerks. This last girl was exactly right doesn't deserve you but I guarantee there's one out there that does. You will stumble upon each other sooner or later, and boy howdy the sparks will fly!
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reader, Imok23 +, writes (29 April 2008):
Its a compliment ,but I can see how it would confuse you. Im sorry I never got to see what you posted yesterday . . . so everything I say will be off the top of my head. She said your the type of guy that seems to good to be true translation ; maybe she doesnt want to get involved and invest her feelings, only to have a rug swept from beneath her feet. It happens all the time you meet the ''perfect'' person and then you realize they werent perfect at all because had they been you 2 would still b together. Im not saying your that guy , but it sounds like she's alittle scared. There's something else though is it possible that she doesnt deserve you ?? Maybe you 2 live to completley diffrent lifestyles and she knows that you getting involved with her would only mean trouble for you. You sound like a good guy (I mean you've said you heard this excuse a couple times)if you really want her do what you feel , but dont do something that only seems like the right option right now . . think things through there might be a good reason she said no . . and you havent realized it yet
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reader, lexilou +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Tricky one this!! It could be that she is letting you down gently. I have male friends that I love to bits but would never want a relationship with and I would hate to hurt them so I would say something similar to them. Dont be a bad ass guy but play a little harder to get and the right girl will come along eventually one that truly appreciates the real you xx
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