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writes:hellooo this is a question for girls only ,im scared of losing my 'v' , Ive Been seeing this boy for about a year now on and off and he is 18 and ready to lose his 'v' but i worried about losing mine ?i reali dont know what to do i feel and know im ready but scared its gonna hurt and im not one for pain.im ready and know i am but i dont know what to do because i also dont like my body and im worried it might turn him off because i have a low self of steam .... please ladies help me !!! Thank Youu x Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (8 February 2010):
 ok, first of all.... how old are you?
As your age range says 13-15 I will assume you are under 16.
As your are in the UK 16 is the LEGAL age of consent. SO if you have sex before you are 16, technically you are breaking the law. Regardless of how much you want to have sex, you cannot consent, so your boyfriend would be raping you. As he is 18, and an adult, that would also make him the guilty one in the eyes of the law.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/surgery/advice/sex_relationships/sex/age_of_consent/
http://www.opsi.gov.uk/acts/acts2003/ukpga_20030042_en_2#pt1-pb5-l1g9
At 13-15 it is perfectly ok to be worried about losing your virginity, as you shouldnt be having sex anyway!
You say you are "ready" but the fact that you have concerns and fears shows that you really are not ready, emotionally or physically.
Also, it worries me, that at 18 your boyfriend says he is ready to lose his virginity. Well, you are obviously much younger, so how exactly is that fair. He may be ready at 18, but that doesnt mean you are. As far as it appears, he has decided that now is the time to have sex, and he is not taking you or the law into consideration at all. This smacks of selfish boyfriend syndrome.
My advice is to wait. When you are ready it will happen all by itself, and you will not be worried or scared.
The fact that you have concerns, says to me, that if you rush into it, you will regret it.
Good luck, I really hope you wait.
Tiger
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): It's emotionally healthier in the long term to wait to lose it when you're several years older. Especially since you say you have low self esteem. In the mean time you can develop your self esteem and it will be so much better when you finally do it. Also, find love first, then maybe have sex. Don't just have sex with a guy because you think you're ready.
All the best
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reader, wiccanrain  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 first off, if he says he's ready to lose his virginity to you then he in all likely already likes ur body, covered with clothes or not. and if it really worries you that much, just turn the lights off the first time round. as to if it hurts or not..in all honesty everyone is different, it could not hurt at all and u could bleed very little if at all. Don't freak out about it, you're muscles will tense if u do and it'll be more uncomfortable. Use plenty of lubricant and you'll be perfectly fine ^.^
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