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female
age
30-35,
*ngel of love
writes:This is kind of hard to explain so I'll just start at the beginning. My friend is seven months pregnant and throughout her pregnancy I have been taking care of her. I walk her to class, carry her books, talk to her when she feels down, tell her that she looks beautiful even when she doesn't, I pay for her breakfast and lunch (believe me...that isn't cheap!), and bascially all my time is spent on her. If not her then my other friend that will remain nameless...she never had a boyfriend and now that she finally does I have to help her to figure out what to do with her boyfriend and what to say! On top of that I'm helping a guy friend to pass his U.S. History class so that he could graduate! While I have to be strong for my family since my older brother has just been deployed to Iraq. All of this is taking up all of my time and patience and sanity...It hurts because while I'm trying to take care of everyone else there's no one there to take care of me! There's no one that I can tell my problems to...no one to hold me and tell me that everything is going to be okay! I just want to be loved! Is that so wrong? My life is so consumed with helping everyone else that I have no time to have a boyfriend...I'm only 17 and 17 year olds are suppose to have time for that! I dont know what I should do...HELP!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 You sound like a very caring and sweet person to be taking care of everyone else; it's very selfless of you. And you have lots of worries on your plate, I know. I think you need to let your girlfriends know about how you're feeling, so that you can get some support back from them too. Talk to your family too, everyone is concerned for your brother, that alone is the biggest worry I think. I know because I just had a family member return from Iraq too and I could not stand to hear the news about it because of all the worry it causes. You need to be able to lean on your family too.
I understand that it would be so nice to be held and comforted by a boyfriend but that will come in time. For now, give yourself a big hug from me and don't be afraid to talk to your friends and family about your worries, okay? It's too much for anyone to keep inside. Is there a teacher who is especially understanding? You could think about talking to her or maybe the counselor at school too. It's not a bad thing to tell people when you're feeling really low, sometimes they may not realize that you have so many worries.
Take care of yourself.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 I hope God hears your cries.
Keep doing the right things ,
for you will reap abundantly what you have sowed.
Keep some time for yourself .
Be patient for God will surely repay your kindness many fold.
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