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writes:Hi all. Need some advice. I'm 21 years old, and I've been working at my job for over 4 years now. There is a woman who comes in who is significantly older than me (probably mid-30's). She is Colombian, like me (although I don't speak Spanish and she does). I've noticed that she is constantly giving me the eye, and she always comes over to talk to me whenever she stops in. I've always been into older women, but I've never been with one more than a couple years older than me. She has at least 10 years on me. I want to ask her for her number and try and talk to her more like outside of work and whatnot, but I don't know how to go about it... I believe she is married, but the way she looks at me and talks to me, it's obvious she's interested. How do I go about this? Would it be weird if I wrote my number down next time she comes in and gave it to her on a receipt or something? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): she is married, please dont wreck that marriage or encourage any bad behaviour even if she does like you!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Someone at the zoo let the cougar out da gate... guess you caught the news eh kiddo? Look pal... its quite possible shes just being friendly with ya and is naturally flirtatious and not into you OR shes very flirtatious and def into you. Something tells me you dont even know her exact age so I take it you two havent chatted it up a lot? Thats key to determining interest. Whats her body language like? Older women can be astounding man and the positive thing drawn from this is that if you in fact have attracted this woman physically, you have good chances with women her age, older, and maybe some younger. First, look at her left hand for a ring. If you see one, back off and dont ask for a number. However, if I were you, Id continue to work on your talking skills with women while shes in there. That can still build your confidence and at your age, build it early when it comes to the ladies. If you find out she is single, strike up a convo with her but do not ask for her number right away. Make her laugh, tease her a bit, just flirt with her like crazy and after ten mins if you dont get two body language signs or winks or cleavage pushed together lol do not ask for her number. Ten mins man... dont waste your time. If shes interested, she will give you that first sign quick as you have a built up rapport with her so she'll be more likely to be comfortable around you... youre not some stranger like me trying to pick her up. Dont compliment her... big mistake. Women prefer to be teased "your nose reminds me of a cartoon character I grew up with" or "bad hair day?" or my favorite... wait til she starts talking and pull out a toothpick and tell her she has something in her teeth and wait for her to dig in her teeth and joke with her nothin was ever there. Then, follow it up with a little smile or wink to let her know youre playing around. Women love that crap man, cause its original vs "oh wow youre so pretty"... they hear that bs all the time.. u feel me? Makes convo more interesting for them AND for you more likely to get her number. Good luck sir.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 January 2012):
 AH… just because a woman looks at you and talks to you do NOT mean she wants to have sex with you. She may just be a friendly person and since you have the same background she feels a kinship.
IF you are interested in her then the next time you see her you come right out and ask her “so we see each other here often and I was wondering if you would be interested in going for coffee or something when I’m not at work?” Then you go from there…
BUT if she is MARRIED, she is not relationship material….
To be honest as a woman who’s partner is 13 years younger than she is… while younger men are delicious fun, there is often very little they have in common with us “cougars” as Cerberus calls us…. I mean music is different, pop culture is different, life goals are often different in your early 20s vs. late 30s…. other than she’s hot and smiles at you what do you have in common?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): OP find out if she's married first and if she is stay away from her.
We're here to help you and not to help you sabotage your life. If she's married then you need to stay away or 1. You risk losing your job 2. You risk getting into a relationship in which you get very hurt and others have their lives ruined.
There are plenty of older women out there that are single that like the cougar lifestyle so just go find one of those.
You see you coming onto this woman alone may be viewed as inappropriate and she may complain to your boss about you. You may lose your job right then and there.
If she has kids and husband and decides to cheat with you then you risk destroying a marriage all because you want to bone an older lady.
First find out if she's married or is spoken for. If she's not then come back and we'll discuss how you can take this to the next level.
One final point OP, obviously the thought of being a home wrecker and destroying lives isn't enough to stop you thinking with your small head, so maybe you should consider the fact that a cheater will cheat you too and are no way trustworthy to you. So if you develop any feelings for her whatsoever you will be crushed. Now if all you're here is because the thought of bagging a married woman and having a seedy affair regardless of who it hurts, then do us all a favour and piss off because no one in their right mind would help you do that.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 Married = Off limits.
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