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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I typically have a hard time talking to females but recently a female at my workplace and I started to talk. This Female and I get along really well, we laugh, talk about stuff and we have alot in common which is why I feel we get along well. I like her but I recently found out she has a 1 year old child and is going to be getting married. This made me feel akward because she isnt the type of female I usually get attracted to. The attraction I have for her is mostly through talking, so a non-phyiscal attraction. To me she isnt phyiscally attractive and has alot of the phyiscal characteristics I am normally not attracted to; such as Brown hair, Short Height etc. This makes this situation special to me because I found something special where I typically didnt want to look.I'm stuck in a bind because I personally feel that we have something and she shows it in her attitude towards me, this makes her very desirable in my eyes. On the other hand she could just be really nice and if something were to happen between us I wouldnt want to "steal" her away from her fiance.It's hard because the more I converse with her the more I grow attached and I feel if I accept that there could be nothing between us relationship wise then this "friendship" so to speak will fall apart and be very akward while in each others presence. I'm stuck.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 I think she is just being nice. I don't think you should make a play for her if she seems genuinely happy with her fiance. If its getting to hard then you may need to take a step back away from her before you fall in to deep with her and its gets too uncomfortable to be around each other.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 The only reason the friendship is going to fall apart is because you're ruining it, in your head. The alternative to her being nice and good company is to be cold and bitchy.
You're stuck in a bind because you choose to be in a bind. Just because you're attracted to her means nothing. You'll be attracted to many women in your life. Are you going to chase them all? She told yo her plans, respect them.
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