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anonymous
writes: hey i'm suddenly not attracted to my b/f anymore. he is skinnier and doesn't work out-and i do and i have muscles and i feel like i could break him. last night i was repulsed by kissing him. what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): I'm actually in the same situation now and this isn't the first time. Eventually you're going to move on. Trust me, he's going to start noticing you aren't physically attracted to him and you're going to get tired of being with someone you're repulsed by. I don't know how long you two have been together but maybe you two should spend time apart and date other people for a while. If it was really meant to be, I'm sure you two will find the way back to one another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): Feelings change...just break up with the fellow (I probaly wouldn't mention the fact that he repulses you...Or that he is too skinny.) Just tell him you've "lost that lovin feeling, and now, it's gone, gone, gone.." No use in stringing him along. Be kind to the fella, you don't want to be mentioned in his therapy sessons years from now. JK
Good Luck Sweetie
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): hey i'm suddenly not really gonna think i can solve your problem but i will have a go. You are implying you are more masculine than him, more muscles than him, and could break him. well you have probably grown out of all your slinky underwear i presume due to your muscles, as well as him, so maybe it is time to let him go find himself a new lady, it's only the fair thing to do if he repulses you and if he is in danger of you breaking him when you pick him up to kiss him ,i would say goodbye. however i hear there are some men out there who pay for this service. maybe he was your calling and you just hav;nt appreciated his true value and role within your relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): my immediate reaction when reading this would be "how shallow" had i not been in the same situation.
i literally went round my bfs one day and felt physically repulsed by him. i didnt want him to touch me, it was weird it was as if after all this time i had finally opened my eyes.
we split up pretty soon after it
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reader, Replacement +, writes (12 July 2008):
I don't really get how you can "suddenly" be repulsed by him, presumably he's been skinny since you started dating. But nonetheless, if you aren't physically attracted to him anymore then your options are limited... either you try to encourage him to work out or you leave him. There's no sense in sticking around with someone who repulses you. Good luck.
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