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writes:Hey dear agony aunts,I see that lately I have been obsessing wayy too much about this guy I had my first kiss with,and I don't knw why..it happened 3 years ago and all of a sudden I saw him and can't stop thinking about him,I check his statuses often and its just driving me crazyy!!I want him back but I don't know if he wants the same..I'm sure he doesn't..Here's the thing he has never been the one to stick to a relationship,he keeps telling his friend he is a bad boyfriend!I changed my phone number and did not give him my number the reason I did that was on his birthday I wished him after we dint talk for a while(this was about 2 years ago)and he just said thank you..he dint even ask how are you?nothing at allll..I was sooo sad and in anger I just changed my number and I dint give him just to cut contacts!before I changed my number he called me asking what I'm doing but it was plainnn..I don't know what exactly happened between us all I remember is after we met he called me,and then I don't know he was mad at me for smthng I don't even remember..and here's the thing he's a pretty known face he's an actor so I know he's around pretty actresses often and I don't mean to sound conceited I was quite the geek when he dated me then,but I have changed soo sooo much it would be hard for him to recognise me and I have plenty of guys hitting on me but I seem to stuck on to him..what do I do??about a year or 2 ago a friends boyfriend met him at a party and asked him about me,and he's said 'yeah she's a nice girl'..ugghh!!I'm sure he doesn't feel the same way yet I'm stuckkkkk..what do I do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Maybe it is worth telling him how you feel one last time, just so you can get some closure. Perhaps he would like to try again, but if he doesnt feel the same at least hearing it from him directly will put the final nail in the coffin so to speak, and you will be able to move on.
I think until you have spoken to him one last time you are always going to wonder what could have been, and wonder how he feels about you - so it might be best to be brave, put yourself out on the line and ask him how he feels about you dating again.
You will have both changed a lot in 3 years, so the reality might be that you are not compatible anymore, but at the moment all you have is the memory of 3 years ago and you want that back. Until you speak to him again you are not going to be able to get past this, so go and speak to him and see what happens.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): hey!just live it in the past because he is just not into you,if he finds out that you are so crazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzy about him he will eventually use it to his advantage!so live the past in the past let him atleast crawl back to you not the another way round.good luck i know its hard but you have to let it go.............
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