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writes:So I was in a long term relationship for 5 years, I met him when I was 15 and I am now 20. We have been split for 2 months now, it was both of our decisions although it was mainly mine, ended due to jelousy on both parts. We also have a two year old little girl together, and he doesn't see her much, but he is a great dad when he's with her. Now I'm basically feeling lost, lonely and very down, I don't know what to do next with my life, I still love him very much but know we won't ever work out and it kills me inside. I'm afraid that he will meet someone else and fall in love, while I'm just going to be a lonely single mum. I would like to fall in love again, but it won't be for a very long time yet. I just want some advice on ways I can get over him, and ways I can move forward with my life. I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. I have no close friends due to losing them during my relationship and now they aint interested. I do have a few friends left. I feel very lonely sat in every night, once my little girl goes to bed I sometimes lay there crying because I feel so alone. Please give me some advice on how to pick myself back up again and will I ever truly let go of him in time?
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reader, Brilopad +, writes (8 August 2012):
My sister was once in the same situation to you many years ago, on her own with a little girl. I know it is hard at the moment but try to focus on the positives, your child, family and friends. Invite your friend/s over for company at night (nights are hard at first) Also have you considered enroling on a college course, My sister figured that as her daughter was in bed and she rarely had a sitter she could use her time effectively and study during the evenings. This also helped her focus her mind on the positives. At the moment you may only remember the good times with your BF, you say the decision was mutual so I'm assuming the relationship was at an end for both of you. My sister now has a degree, my niece is 19yrs and at University and my sister is married to a wonderful man who is not only a great husband but also a fantastic dad to my niece. I suppose what I'm trying to say is, it will get better, you will be happy again, you will meet someone else and you will love and be loved in return. For now simply concentrate on being a great mum which I'm sure you already are. best wishes and good luck x
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