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I'm stuck in a loveless marriage but I have a child and another on the way. What do I do?

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Question - (13 April 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 April 2016)
A female Ireland age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I apologise in advance. Married 8 years.. 4 yr old daughter and currently 27 weeks pregnant.. But it's a loveless emotionless marriage. I feel so lonely and neglected. But when I discuss with husband he gets defensive and puts blame back on me. He seems happy to continue as we are but I'm feeling miserable- maybe hormones make me seem worse but I don't know what to do.. Not even sleeping right over it all..

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A male reader, eddie85 United States +, writes (14 April 2016):

eddie85 agony auntSorry to hear about this. Having a child, as you well know, is one of the most stressful times in a couple's life.

You don't go into specifics about your situation so there could be a lot of things going on. Your husband *could* be right as well -- at least on a few accounts.

Since your husband isn't willing to talk to you about the issues, I think it would be best for you to see a therapist, if possible. Having an independent party listen to your problems and offer suggestions can be a godsend. They can help you sort out what might be hormones and what you can do to change your situation. They can also give you the tools and steps necessary to extract yourself from your marriage -- if that's the route you want to take.

I hope you take stock of your situation, before making any leap. Being a single parent -- especially for a woman -- is extremely difficult. Also divorce and eventual new (step)parents have a definite affect on your children. I understand your happiness is at stake, but it will come at a price. Know going in, what that is going to cost you.

Either way to get what you are looking for, I hope you take some steps by either seeking outside help (at least for you) or working on listening to the possibly legitimate complaints that your husband may have and try to find compromises for both of you. Your children's happiness and family life is at stake.

Eddie

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2016):

Is it possible that he's shopped showing you any affection because you've stopped showing him any? If you started instigating affection is it possible that the bond between you might grow again? I agree seeing a professional is probably a good idea.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (13 April 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntIt is more than likely your husband is getting defensive because he feels you are blaming him for the situation you are both in. Maybe you both need to see a professional and talk things through in a calm environment?

If you are so unhappy then I suggest telling him it is make or break. You both need to work hard or else it is over, if he still refuses help or to talk to you about it, then I suggest a trial separation to allow you both to think about what you want.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (13 April 2016):

chigirl agony auntDo you have the opportunity to move out, if only for a short period? Take some time apart?

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