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male
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30-35,
*he pasionate one
writes:Hi! Im a guy who is currently struggling to trust his gf. She talks to guys from her past which i know alot of because we were really close friends before we started dating. we've been together for about 5 months now. So she use to tell me everything like who she liked, who she kissed and so on. unfortuntely for me she has "been" with about two other guys before me. She still talks to 1 of them and he acts like a flirt with her. Also a guy who she use to talk to a lot suddenly appeared out of nowhere and wants to hang out. If it was another guy i wouldnt care or be cocerned. they liked each other and i know he still does. She says she trusts me but frankly i dont trust her at all. She lost my trust in the first 2 months because she confessed that at a party a guy "kissed her" even though he knew she was with me. she says they just kissed, but i wasn't there so i don't know anything. we got over it or at least i did. But now everytime she mentions a guy i think something is going on between them. I need advice!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 April 2010):
 This is a tough situation to be in. It's very difficult to regain trust after it's been broken and I think you know her pretty well, as you were friends first.
I think the only thing you can do is explain to her how you feel about this, that you don't trust this ex's motives, that you would prefer she not put herself in situations that would cause her to cheat.
You could give her the benefit of the doubt and see if anything happens, only react to an actual situation rather than expect one.
Talk, discuss, agree, then stick to the agreement, whatever it is.
Sorry that's not much advice but it's the best I have for you. At your age, relationships have a tendency not to last because people are still growing up. She may still have some maturing to do, I'm not saying she's a bad person, she just may not be as grown up and reliable as you might like just yet. Sorry to throw in the teenager card, but it is the truth.
Good luck!
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