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writes:I went out with my boyfriend for four years. We split up 6 months ago which was mutual as he didn't want to live in my flat anymore and we ended up only seeing each other at weekends which stressed me out as I never ended up doing things that I wanted to do at the weekend and had no "me" time, we talked about it and decided that we would split. I was OK about it the first couple of months and liked having my time back, and probably thought in the back of my mind that we would get back together again. Anyway, six months down the line I regret it completely as I love him and see my life with him. I have told him this but he said that we made that decision and that's it and it's not going to change. I don't understand how come he is reacting like this, as I really thought he loved me and deeply and this wouldn't change as we have still met up a good few times since we split. I don't know what to do and am making thigs worse because I phone him to tell him what I feel and he just says "no"...and he just says that he feels better on his own and is fine. A part of me deep down still believes that he loves me like I love him. He's a couple of years younger than me so I think he wants his independence and stuff and to live a little, but I'm struggling to let him go cause I want him back.
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reader, Theoneandonlybutterfly  +, writes (10 July 2008):
 Sometime guys have to realize there self that what they got was gold until then let him have his freedom and you have your because knowing him he's enjoy his if you know what i mean so enjoy yours and find someone new or a BC and keep your head up!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Well, my boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. I was devastated, i suffered a LOT. I missed him so much and he treated me like crap. But now, he calls me and wants to get back with me, but I've suffered enough and don't want to get back together. I think he learned a lesson and you should too: people move on. They get used to being alone and when that happens, its almost impossible to get them back.When you love someone, do everything you can to stay togetehr with them, even if you have to sacrifice somethings. You should never play the "I'm great without you" game, because you might regret it and it might be too late.
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