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anonymous
writes:O.k i'm nearly 17 and i've been with my boyfriend almost a month. When we were younger we went out for about eight months but it is only recently that we rekindled our relationship and i have to say the past month he has made me sooooo happy.We have a really good connection and i feel he just gets me and i can be myself around him unlike my past boyfriends. The other day i was with him and we were being intimate i was thinking i really wanted to have sex with him but i refrained from it. We are both virgins but what i want to know is if it is too early to be even thinking about having sex with him, because i think he wants it too. I just think maybe a month is too soon or considering our history it is exactly the right time. Should i have sex with him?
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (9 July 2008):
 It's not something that anyone can tell you.
The right time is when you both feel it's the right time.
My "gut feeling" is that for a relationship that's going to last it doesn't hurt to wait a little longer. A month is not too long, even though you have a history together. More importantly, if you feel the need to ask us then the chances are it IS too early. If the time was right, then you would KNOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): It really depends on how you feel about him. Some people want to wait because it'll make it feel more special, but others love them so much that it gives equally the same result.
I mean you had 8 months before him?! Regardless of the fact that you broke up you had those experiences with him. The only thing is you said when you were younger. If you went out with him when you were like 11 it probably wouldn't have the same effect...
Personally, I'd wait a little bit longer and find out what you both want. But when you have sex isn't based around common sense, it is based around your feelings.
Common sense follows on.
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