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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and we broke up broke up just under 2 years ago.We had a lot of issues whilst we was together, no trust, arguing and sometimes even when things were going well i felt he wasn’t the right person for me but we would constantly break up and get back together again. He moved to another country due to work just after we broke up so that kind of sealed the deal. We started speaking over the phone again last October and we became really close and was talking every night on the phone for hours and hours. I started to think that maybe one day when he moves back to the UK (in around 1 years time) things could work out between us. He hasn’t moved on and i know if i wanted to get back with him then we would make it work but i decided it best we cut contact and just both move on with our lives rather than living in the passed. I don't want to put my life on hold hoping that things could one day work out between us just to be back to square one.But here’s the thing he is the only person i have ever felt such a connection with, just being around him i would forget everything all my worries and problems and i would feel so content. He's the only person who understands my dysfunctional family and he just gets it and me, everything about me and my life he just gets it all. Anyone since him i just haven’t had the same connection with, not even close and every person i meet who isn’t right for me it just makes me miss him more and more. I feel i have changed a lot since we first got together and i think he has as well so that makes me think that maybe we would both be a lot more mature about things and be able to have a healthy relationship. I know for a fact if he was in the UK we would try and work things out but he isnt so i feel that gives me a chance to try and move on. I wish i could just completely move on but a part of me always still thinks and hopes that maybe one day things will work out between us and i just cant get that out of my mind :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 May 2016):
 It never worked in the past so it more than likely wont work next year either, yes you have both matured and changed and you have a good connection but that does not mean you will have a great relationship. There was no trust between you and you doubted that he was the right guy for you. At the moment you are lonely and want to think of the good memories and hope for the best but their is no point sugar coating it. There is a reason that you both broke up you need to remember that.
I seriously would not recommend putting your life on hold for a year, and I would not recommend you keeping in contact either. Go out and enjoy yourself, be with family and friends, meet new people and let him go, if you still feel the same when he gets back then maybe you can try, but if you hold on to that for the year you won't give any other man a chance, and you might miss the right guy for you.
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