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writes:i have been goin out with this amazing lad for about 2 months but i cant stop thinking about my ex even though i have no feelings for him at all...well i dont think i do.i'm confused....does it mean that because i'm still thinking about my ex that i love him or is this natural???i love my boyfriend so much i really do but my ex was my first love.please please help.xxx
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reader, Tnamismth  +, writes (9 January 2010):
I am having the same problem. I was with this guy for 7 almost 8 years. Found put he was cheating on me again and asked his friend about it and we darted talking and have been talking for 6 months...I still think about my ex all the time...it hurts so bad. But like u j hope I will getvover it and make my new boyfrend happy. I kind of think u might have gone into this new relationship way to fast. It was easy. But I believe with all my heart that I am goin to end up with my ex eventually. Because I am still in live with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): Well if you think about him a lot there is chance you still like him.There are things you might miss about him too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): to tell you the truth it is natural but you must have REALLY loved him because you still think about him and you probably do ahve feelings for him...i have the same probablem but i have came to that conclusion
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): It looks like you haven't moved on from your ex. Seeing as your ex is your first love this is natural but this isn't fair on your boyfriend. I think that you should dump your boyfriend as it looks like you have jumped into another relationship too quickly and before you've managed to get over your ex.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (11 February 2007):
 Its perfeccly natural to still think about an ex boyfriend, After all you shared time together, and these thoughts are all stored in our memory banks. But as long as you realise that these momories are water under the bridge, i don't see any harm in thinking back to previous relationships, after all where would we be without hindsight.Good luck x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Your ex will always have that special place within you because he was your first love and of course that means your first boyfriend. You may feel sorry for him that you broke up but now you need to move on. You will probably have quite a few boyfriends before you settle down and they'll ALL be the right one (at the time.)
Enjoy your relationship with your new boyfriend. Have fun together, get to know one another more and basically just enjoy being with him. In time, thoughts of this ex will fade, I promise you, it's all perfectly normal and a part of life.
Eve
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I wouldn't worry about it.
You are still young.
Before I married my wife she was with a bf for six years.
we have now been married for 27 years and it has only been within about the last 10 years or so that she has not slipped on occasion and called me by his name.
The problem will go away. Doc.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I take it you broke up with your ex recently? If so, then it's quite natural to think about him. It's a way of dealing with that the relationship is over.
Think of it a little bit like if you had a good friend, and she suddenly moved away to a far away place: you would still think of her a lot for the first months, right?
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